Jeanette Yates
@SelfCaregiver · 2:44
Don’t ask me how i am. But also, ask me how i am.
When a as a caregiver and a person who is dealing with crisis and trauma and probably some sort of stress nervous system deregulation on a regular basis, it can be kind of annoying to try to answer that question when it's typically just a filler question
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:12
I'm looking forward to getting some responses here, because if you pass somebody by and you say, hey, how you doing? And you're walking dogs and you're not intending at all to stop, that's crazy to me. If you ask a question, you better stop and wait for the answer. So I say when I'm walking in my neighbor, I say, nice to see you. I always say, hey, nice to see you
And so there's a lot of thought that goes into my human interactions and trying to have it come across as genuine and not come across as scripted. Ironically, when I'm thinking of the script of Hi, how are you?
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Jeanette Yates
@SelfCaregiver · 1:32
Main and I also do think that it's about the time you actually have to invest in both asking a question and then the time that, you know, the person might have to respond to it. But yeah, I'm looking forward to seeing what different people's perspectives are on this
Jeanette Yates
@SelfCaregiver · 3:31
But if somebody asks me how are you? Or what is a highlight from today? Or what is a challenge? And I know they actually want to know those answers and can sit with me in the answers, especially the hard ones, I'm glad they asked. So I think one thing is like, oh, the perspective of me as a caregiver, what am I coming to the conversation with? So that's a good point too