Zakiyyah Frazier
@Ziggy_Chats · 4:58
Setting Boundaries and Finding Peace with Nedra Glover Tawwab💛🧡🩵💙
It's only less than 300 pages, and I don't think you'll have a hard time reading it because she writes in a way that's very easy for the average person to understand. So it's not one of those types of books that require you to have a master's degree or a PhD or anything of that sort. You can just be an average person wanting to learn about boundary setting and reclaiming yourself in regards to finding peace
Zakiyyah Frazier
@Ziggy_Chats · 4:23
When you tend to be very easily bothered or annoyed, or you're holding on to unspoken feelings of resentment towards someone, then that's usually a sign that you lack boundaries with that person or with those people. And you might need to address that because it'll only snowball into conflict. And I know all about that. Okay? So I can personally attest to this resentment piece because it gets to a point where you just feel like people are taking from you and not pouring into you
Zakiyyah Frazier
@Ziggy_Chats · 5:00
That type of hectic, chaotic, stressful energy is not sustainable, and it really doesn't allow for you to show up as your best self. You end up being very snappy, very worn out, very tired, even possibly aggressive and confrontational. And if it gets too bad, very violent with your words and with your actions. And honestly, we learn about boundaries through our family histories and our personalities, determine how we implement and accept boundaries in our lives
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Zakiyyah Frazier
@Ziggy_Chats · 5:00
And that can look like never sharing, building walls, avoiding vulnerability, cutting people out, having high expectations of others, and enforcing strict rules. And an example that she gives is saying no harshly as a way to discourage people from asking you in the future and having a rule that you never watch your sister's kids. And the last boundary that she lists is the healthy boundary
Zakiyyah Frazier
@Ziggy_Chats · 2:02
I'm sure you can finish it within a week. If you can't, just commit to binging it in a day or two, and I'm sure you'll find benefit. I think that it is well written, it's very relatable, and she's very informative about boundaries and how to enact boundaries in a healthy way in your relationships. So I don't have anything else for you today
