If nothing changed, could I even stay in this relationship for another month, year, five years, ten years, et cetera? Ten is me being in this relationship hurting anyone? Is it hurting them? Is it hurting me? Is it hurting my loved ones? And eleven, have I lost myself in this relationship? Do I not recognize myself anymore? And have I given up my ethics and values in this relationship?
Some people have trauma or challenge or habits that are so thick that it's just you can't break it. And in a perfect world, we identify those really deep seated beliefs before you make a commitment. But there's always the chance that you take the job without realizing what type of person the boss truly is or whatever. You get into a relationship with somebody and then suddenly you realize that they have things that are unresolved in their life