So now I hear a lot of people say that they love someone at the same time they do the following to the person that they claim to love. And I am guilty of this as well, so I'm not excluding myself from this. But what we do to people that we claim to love is we will shame them. We will criticize them. We will not understand their point of view. We will demean or debase them. We will call them mean or nasty names. We will insult them