And about three years ago, I lost my father, and three years before that, I lost my mother. And I loved them both. But I think in some ways I mourn them differently. And I think it's always kind of interesting that regardless how much we love people, how they affected our lives kind of plays into how we mourn them. Because I don't think there's a checklist for mourning
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:56
And so I hope my mother lives a long life, but I probably will see myself having the experience that you're having where I recognize that I like, will grief my mother differently, because to this day, I miss my conversations with that man
Theo Seibold
@Thatoneweirdo · 4:56
Hey, it's Theo. Thank you so much for chiming in. Relationships with parents are very tricky because unless you have the kind of parents that are on kind of the same wavelength, you're always going to have an experience to where one is different. I grew up in the seventies and eighties, so I had like many any of us. Hey, dad, I want to go do this. What does your mother say? Go ask your mother. Mom, I want to go do this
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:34
Hey, Theo. Thank you for bringing this up. I think a lot of people have this conversation very quietly, and I'm glad you're having one that's kind of uncomfortable and out loud. My dad passed away 13 years ago, and I really wanted time with him away from my mom to experiencing him him in just in a unique different way that wasn't in the context of the marriage that I felt was was beautiful, but also dominated by my mother's decisions
Theo Seibold
@Thatoneweirdo · 4:21
Hey, it's Theo. Thank you so much for chiming in. I think there's that old adage that as long as you remember someone and in turn honor them, they're never truly gone. And I believe that to a degree, but I also know that it kind of gets very tricky with certain things, and I agree with you with time, like how it was spent with them. And in some ways, I feel like I didn't know my father all that well
Sarah Blanche
@SarahBd1 · 4:49
Good morning, Theo. I'm a few days late on this topic, but I wanted to respond and send my condolences. No matter how long it's been, it still sucks. I lost my father ten years ago. Suddenly, he went into cardiac arrest. I performed CPR on him while my mother in the background cried. I had and yelled, and my five year old stood in the doorway watching
Theo Seibold
@Thatoneweirdo · 4:59
I mean, if we could be great. But that wasn't an option and it was very difficult to express that to him because in his mind it was like, I gave you life. You have to see me through to death. Which I'm all for if I could have afforded it. And it was very difficult to try to balance that for a few months and at no point was a matter of taking away from what he was going through but it was very difficult to get that done