To be Nice or to be Kind: Let’s Talk About it
I think that society has conditioned a lot of debate on where you need to be on the spectrum for this and how our behaviors and actions and communications and mannerisms will kind of determine where you are on the scale. Personally speaking, I am respectful. I'm usually play and show some gratitude and have some manners so that could be construed as nice because I don't like to talk to people really aggressively
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 1:54
And so I was raised watching her do these things and then doors away from the person on people she was helping, she had to complain she was playing so bad. And it became very tension filled and uncomfortable. So as I got an older, I would ask her back why are you doing it? If you authentically don't want to do it, just tell the person. No person doing it from a space of as if they forced you to do it when they didn't force you said yes
It's funny when I hear the word nice. It's such a cringe word to me now because so many times throughout my life it's been used as a pejorative to describe my behavior or how others have seen it. And I would say, yes, that in the past when I was young, that was the only tool in the toolbox, so to speak. It was the only mo
Taha Abbas
@taha_oracle · 5:00
And I guess it takes experience to learn that when we are eight years old, we are quite impressionable or gullible. And I mean, every child is different. But most children, they can easily be taken advantage of. Them might be considered as being nice because that's a child
I got the tail end when you're talking about your domestic violence experience and you get feedback that, you know, that was kind gesture, or you want to display kindness and not care to be nice. That's what I got from that. But I would love to hear more if you like to share. Thank you
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Hey. Good morning, Christina. I always enjoy when you come on these. Thank you so much. Because you just you hit it straight, but in a way that it's like, hey, man, like, hey, you know, well, not man specifically, but like, hey, what's going on? Just do that, and it's all good. And I love the casualness but directness of relatable insight that you have anyways, aside from all of those complimentary things. Yeah
Thank you for your kind complimentary words and for whatever it's worth. Like when you covered it in your swell to me. I heard you talking about both as important. So I don't think that you took it in that direction. I have my own, I suppose, trauma or woundedness from the word nice. And I tilted it in that direction, but you didn't take it there. I think that you talked about both being important or at least for yourself
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 4:23
And for me to do that, I think that's a kind gesture, because I don't have to do it. I could just shut up and say nothing, couldn't I? But that would be boring. And God forbid that I'd be boring anyway. Is it necessary? Is it true? Is it kind? Is it hilariously? Funny? Boom