So people write articles about anything and everything, and this particular article was around fitting into the gazing or more specifically, not fitting in. So the writer described how they often felt judged for not being gay enough, although they identified as gay, so they weren't dressing or acting gain, or they weren't fitting the stereotype. And they felt that they needed to change the way they act, the way they dress, the programs they consume. So they've never seen RuPaul
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 2:28
Most of us not going to assume how everybody was raised and oriented for heteronormativity in regards to dating, maintaining a relationship, all these little advice Nana dotes that we got throughout our lives to help us be the great partner, girlfriend, wife, etc. E or husband, boyfriend, et cetera. And how to court and things like that. And then when your LGBTQ or queer just to say this one word, it's different
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 3:40
And I wonder whether some of that as well, again, can only speak for my own experiences, but because I didn't fit into that way, maybe I was feeling like I needed to fit in somewhere else, and so I needed to fit in with what the queer way is right for one of the better phrase, but I don't because I forgot about what we do forget about in society when there is so much pressure in all sorts of from the wider society to communities is that we need to fit in and actually we're individuals and we need to be ourselves
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 2:01
I am so grateful I stumbled upon this conversation because I think it's so important, and I still related to your story. Tasha, as far as having a moment when it came to your transition or the ways in which you were changing your appearance and questioning things. And I certainly went through that myself during various phases of my coming out, not only around my sexuality but also gender
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 0:37
Hey Ferry, thank you so much for your reply. I'm smiling at the big Fu to society and stereotyping. I just love that so much. I definitely I definitely identified that as well. And it feels quite nice to say, hey, F, you I'm going this way. So thank you for your reply and for putting a smile on my face and for sharing a little bit about what this topic means to you and your own experience
L A
@homosanity · 5:00
And, you know, I mean, heaven forbid that, you know, I don't fit into some kind of thing. Like, I fantasize about being with a thruffle or being pansexual sometimes, but I know at my core of who I am that I'm monogamous, maybe a thruffle, I don't know. It would take a lot of work for me personally to be able to do that
L A
@homosanity · 2:33
I used to be it was, like, so hard for me to get my mind around transgender and drag queens. At first, I was terrified, but I love them now. But I guess it's that I want more. I want in depth relationships and intellectual discussion. I want to have fun, too. I do, and I like doing those things. But what turned me off is that that's all these people were about, and it's just really disappointing