Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 3:58
What is important to you for a relationship to work?
Hey, lovelies, I wanted to share a little bit of a story time with you. So a few years ago, I had a family member who is gay CIS male who told me that he he values sex over any other thing in relationships. Sex is the most important thing in a relationship for him because he's gay and basically argued with me that gay men are inherently more sexualized and see sex as more important than any other thing in a relationship
Charlie Olivieri
@Charlieri · 2:32
Just feeling heard and having sort of a creative space to not feel judged, I guess, because it's lovely to explore with someone in whatever realm of life that may be and to be able to explore and be creative. You need as little judgment as possible. So that's the kind of ideals I want in a relationship and the ideals that I want to build in myself as well
Paul OMahony
@omaniblog · 5:00
That is of no problem to me at all. And I can actually like people who don't like me. But for a relationship to work and become solid and become sustainable and predictably solid, I have to feel that they like me. I reckon that's true
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 4:51
But when you do have multiple partners, do you look for all of those things in all of your partners? So you've got a specific type, that a person. And so all of your partners are kind of very similar, or do you just look for you have kind of the main ones so you can meet all of those needs in your group of partners and not just in one partner. Does that make sense?
Paul OMahony
@omaniblog · 2:42
So back to the related to this, the phrase came to me, sexual appetite. And I thought to myself, there is surely a good bit of research, huge cross cultural cross generational, in fact, even longitudinal research about sexual appetite that could be carried out. And there are myths about sexual appetite. Well, there's myths about every aspect of sexuality, I think
Charlie Olivieri
@Charlieri · 2:50
I think we can sort of dip into and receive and give lots of different things to lots of different people. And it's just a really lovely way to live, really. Because I think especially when I'm with someone new, which is kind of happening at the moment
Tasha Frank
@NLOFrank · 0:30
Hey, Charlie, I just wanted to say thank you for answering that question. It was really interesting. I had definitely have heard people who polyamorous joke that they like all the parts out there into each other. And then I've seen other polyamorous relationships that are very different. But people just assume that thank you for sharing your own experiences and answering that question from your perspective
Ritika Dhawan
@ritika_dhawan_ · 1:02
Hello. I think for a LGBTQIA LGBTQIA LGBTQIA relationships to work like how it would work, it depends on the person you are in relationships and all. The most important thing I would like to say that how do you believe each other? How much trust you have for each other? If the belief could not be in this between if you both, then I don't think so. The relationship will work. Okay. So I think the belief is most important