Teens and the everyday struggles
But if anyone has had anyone has had any similar situations go on with their kids and a bus driver or their kids and even the cafeteria lady, which I'll talk to you all about later as well, because that is another interesting story in the day in the life of me being a mother to my children, please let me know because it is not easy. Like I am not okay. Everyone always asks parents of teenagers, are you all okay? And no, we are not
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:01
And I was always like, wow, we need, like, a chaperone on this bus because the bus driver's driving, but there's no one in the bus being able to be a part of the dynamics that were happening inside the little seats. So I can imagine there's so much pressure on this person to drive safely and also be a part of stuff. But if she's being disciplined, then there's definitely a lot going on
But yeah, I'm definitely going to try speaking with her because my kids both having mental health issues or mental health problems, I know that sometimes they can jump to conclusions on how people are speaking to them or feeling about them and things like that. So I don't want it to be a situation where they're just misunderstanding what's happening and then getting frustrated with her, and then it's a situation where it could have been avoided
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:32
I mean, they're teenagers with hormones, and they're exploring different feelings, emotions, and sensations, and I believe it's my job to support that and help him process versus creating shame and negativity around it, which is how I was brought up. And he also has ADHD, my son does, and we have conversations about that. Is this the day you believe that you need your medication?
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 5:00
Not with the kid, right. Not with the kid. And some parents are out of control because they confront the kid when they really should confront the adult. But, yeah, next phone call or the next appearance, they will see us, my face, into having a meeting with the bus driver, because that's the only way that you're going to get to the root cause of it, because clearly there's something there that the adult is not saying
I definitely just had a conversation with the bus driver upon listening to your replies, and I hate that the school system actually tried to talk to one parent at the other olive play you guys against each other. It doesn't sound good, but, yes, I know my kids
I am going to talk to my daughter, though, today on her way to her appointment that she has because I'm picking her up early anyway, and we're just going to talk and have a conversation ourselves, so then try and make sure that we don't have these issues again
And I told her that if you need to ever talk and let me know what's going on, because the school is not that great. They don't really know what's happening and transpiring on the bus. And then, of course, I'm going to talk to my daughter as well, get her recognition. Olive I was talking to her this morning, but she was pretty upset. She was yelling, screaming, cursing
Carey Braidt
@countryswell · 4:59
Oh, this is so great that you're really exploring the details of what's going on here. I commend you for that. This is Carrie and I am am a fierce mama bear. So much so that my kids have deemed me crazy on a few circumstances because of my overprotectiveness. And I can laugh at that and I can recognize that I have that strong will to protect them. And they all survived childhood
So I don't know what their schedules look like or anything like that, but we had a pretty decent conversation and I do talk to my kids all the time. In fact, I talked to them yesterday prior to this situation even happening because of an incident that happened yesterday. So I'm constantly talking to them and I'm always talking to my kids about the importance of being in any vehicle that's on the road
Carey Braidt
@countryswell · 3:38
And it's really sad because you could see that in this circumstances that I witnessed that the kids were kind of scared. Olive it was scary. I mean, yes, in one aspect, scaring our kids straight can work to some degree, but it has to be olive emotionally and developmentally appropriate for the children. And we were in a traumainformed type of environment where we recognize that the children in this school, an overwhelming percentage of them, had had traumatic experiences in their life
Thank you so much. And I apologize. I look, my middle name is Carrie, so I apologize because I could have sworn you said that, and I was wrong. So I apologize, Carrie. And I appreciate all of the kind words and things, but, yeah, I'm definitely going to stay on it and do what I can for them and just make sure that things are the way that they should be. I hope you have a good rest of your day. Bye
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 2:44
But also knowing your kids and it seems like you know, your kids like you're like, okay, my kids may take it the wrong way, but I'm still going to check on it for them. And that's what I love because we need those support systems at home. We can't have one or the other