And it has to do way more than what most people just see on the eye. And one of the things is very much in conversation, as they say, you have a conversation one time and you would know if a person is for you or not for you. And I think that has been a very good guide for me. And it can be kind of a difficult situation as well when the world really don't understand it
hermie thomas
@hermie · 4:14
I was also blessed to be raised by a father who taught me to have a five to 15 minutes conversation and know who I'm dealing with. So even though I'm a visual, physical, sexual person on site, me being able to find a physical attraction doesn't mean I have an attraction for you. Totally. There still has to be a conversation for me to know who I'm dealing with. There still has to be an attraction to you mentally, emotionally
Maybe that's what fluid people do. What do you all think? A lot of people say, hey, they fluid. They go by whatever they feel at the moment. Maybe they have something that we didn't quite understand or get because a lot of people are very rigid in when it comes to sexuality identification. And the identifications change and don't even realize it
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:52
Hey, thanks for the invite. I was just looking at the conversation you're having here. And the back and forth really speaks to how labels sometimes can conflate a couple of different issues. In one. There's demisexual too, which is just liking somebody and not being connected to their gender or even their sexuality. But I think sapiosexual is pretty prominent in both the fluid straight and gay worlds where your sexual attraction doesn't happen until you have a real intellectual attraction
So when I found out about demisexual, man, I was elated. I'm like, okay, that is me all the way, most of the time. But as you said, as in the fluid community, in a gay community, and all of they are step ahead of us in that sense, because most of us who are heterosexual are very rigid in our thought patterns, as I said. And we not open as people generally to understanding our sexuality
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:16
Yet another categorized label to put oneself in so they could feel special and unique and feel like a snowflake. But reality. I think half of the people who post that should really just are trying as best as they can to put up roadblocks for the stuff they don't want. But they still will let idiots in as long as the person is beautiful to their gaze. That's my story and I'm sticking to it
However, I am not trying to change your mind or anything, but if it's real for a person, this is something that they really believe, and as in being who they really are, then who are we to really tell them that they are not?