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@hope · 2:26
PSYCHOLOGICAL FLEXIBILITY | #TellYourStory | When did you push past your lack of flexibility to put someone else’s dire needs first? How did that feel
When, if they emerge, you're able to accept this. Okay. It also leads to social sharing of feelings and deliberate deepening of emotional experience. This is a very dense article, and it's from science direct and it's helping me sort of understand the opportunity we have to look at ourselves and maybe think about something we didn't think about. So here's the prompt. When did you push past your lack of flexibility to put someone else's dire needs first, and how did that feel?
Darrain …
@TheBriefOne · 3:40
We all moved forward, though we had different solutions within the same, I would guess, biome or like environments we lived in, such as in home or what have you, that didn't intersect. As in like we got in the way or diverged, as in we went so far apart that we didn't matter to each other. So like for example, I love my brother. He has asthma. We both have a large yard to cut an edge
Natasha Nurse
@DressingRoom8 · 2:42
I mean, I would say most people probably would agree that that's not necessarily the most enjoyable, but I've said this on the app, I've said on social media all the time, human beings only grow when we're uncomfortable
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Michelle Murad
@MichelleMurad · 2:03
I know on the other side of all of that is clear decisiveness of who you are, even though who you are changes. But anyway, I could talk on and on and on and on. Clearly, I've been given the gift of gab. Thank you, Deborah, for this wonderful prompt and for the prompts that happen every day. Look forward to them, and I really look forward to hearing other people's replies
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@hope · 0:42
Hey Michelle, you bring up this whole idea of being preconditioned as caretakers and women, and I think it's worth just noting that that is part of what we're celebrating on one level, that we have the ability to put ourselves aside for others. But then there's the catch 22 of not taking care of ourselves
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@hope · 0:43
But if you have any stories that really show how this showed up for you, I would love to hear them. And always thank you for being a part of these amazing conversations
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@hope · 0:47
And these adjustments are made by the flexible part of us, the part that's not going to break, but the part that's going to bend. It's really, really fascinating. Thank you for sharing this story. It was exactly on the nurse here. It's so fascinating also to see where this shows up in our lives and at different times of our lives. We're not as flexible as other times in our lives, which is something to think about as well
william brown
@FavColorBrown · 3:20
They were just regular students, but I could never muster up the courage to get up there and go speak. And essentially, I had a fear of public speaking. So I was always worried about what people would think about me if I was getting up there and speaking or what if I got vulnerable or just completely interested, always interested, too much interested in what other people had to say about me. So I would never muster up enough courage to get up there and do it
Kim Soliz
@apianogirl · 4:58
But that psychological flexibility ability has to be there because I've had to change and the illnesses have changed who I am physically and mentally, and they've had to change, too. I hope this makes sense. I'm very passionate about this, and thank you for letting me share. Bye
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@hope · 1:02
They don't lose their own roots, but they bend towards you and they're able to create a life that enables you to be safe and healthy and cared for. And just know that that flexibility in them is strengthening their core and it's making them understand a very meaningful part of themselves that they're seeing shine out. When we give to other people, we get to know ourselves better, and you're giving them that gift. So I hope you see that as well
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@hope · 1:24
Hey, William, I also wanted to comment on your sort of reflection with regard to courage and speaking and public speaking and how it connects to building the muscle of being able to show up in a situation where you're going to flex into it much more readily because you know yourself better. And, like, I want to be that person
Natasha Nurse
@DressingRoom8 · 3:38
So if it's a team project, if it is a deliverable, if it is finishing out a task, you have to be able to hold those feelings and then be able to articulate in a way where you're not going to snap at someone, but you're going to kind of lean into empathy and you're going to say, you may not agree with what the other person is saying or doing, but you know that at the end of the day, you have to be professional and you have to show up and represent your role and represent what you're hired to do, as well as what the company needs and what the company culture is and the values that you adhere to and believe in
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:50
Yeah. That phrase, life be life. And it's a great one in this moment, because as much as we have, like, an awareness of the value of being flexible and rooted in that commitment, that value of being flexible, there are circumstances that pull us to kind of get rigid because of fear, because of the context, and especially in the workplace or playing roles with people where they expect you to be a certain kind of person
Natasha Nurse
@DressingRoom8 · 2:14
So you have to really lean into emotional flexibility, probably even more so than you even think you're capable of, just because a requirement, like I said, the notion of conflict is just a natural constancy within the work environment. So thank you. Talk to you soon
Tonya Dewhurst
@BeKind2 · 4:46
And I think you just kind of get there one step at a time. And in that regard, I can't say that there was actually a point at which I crossed that line. I feel like I brought whatever I had in my childhood, and however I understood that the world would work, I brought that into my adulthood. Being a parent and a wife when different times, off and on, excuse me, I got a job so that I could help make ends meet
Becky Butler
@bc75 · 2:38
Avoid having a need when we don't feel valued or esteemed. We can give pieces of ourselves away to partake in anything that resembles acceptance. This is a concession to the fatigue of the journey. So we stop here in our lagging mental and emotional health, pushing beyond self applied and misnomer labels to help another in their own varying yet comparable state of need brings us full circle. Do we reach out? Do we listen? Do we help? Do we edify, lift and encourage?
