But I want to talk about the flip side today, about things we don't care about. And I find that as I'm getting older, it kind of surprises me a little bit. Did I find areas where, you know, somebody's telling me something or something's going on with somebody and I'm not as emotionally attuned as I used to be in some areas. I'm just, you know, not with it there all the time, not at a dangerous level, not
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:51
And when you very empathic, you, you take on someone's darkness because you're trying to, you can't even try. It's like a thing, you feel it and you ride with it all day and you gotta get it off your bike. Like, you gotta get it off. But the choice to make that initial phone call, to reach out, because, you know, they need to connect with you less and less. Do I have the capacity to do that?
I feel like at some point I have to tell some people that has been bombarding me for years with the weight of the world, their world, placing it on me, and I've been allowing it and I've been having to deal with my own things, their things and just the things that you naturally have to deal with when you walk out your door. So I've been telling people, like, listen, leave me alone, I don't care
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Johnny League
@pastorjohnny · 2:24
Yeah, this post really resonated with me because I like you, I'm an empath. I feel very compassionate toward people when they're in different situations, and sometimes I've found that that tends to draw a certain type of person. Sometimes I found myself, I guess, at times almost feeling taken advantage of by people who are maybe emotionally needy or just they want someone to share all their troubles and problems with. And I do my best to be a good listener
L A
@homosanity · 4:49
Homo sanity here. I wanted to reply to the three of you who responded. I think all of you have just great thoughts about this and what I hear, and this is a really broad, sweeping sense, not covering everything that you guys were saying, but a theme that I hear is kind of burnout
Missy Jones
@lemrjane · 0:34
Oh, my God. Girl, you just set a mouthful. That's it. That's exactly what I've been talking about this whole time. And people just didn't get it. Yep. They just snap. One day you're fine, the next day you wake up and something's clicked in you and you're tired of being used. I'm so glad somebody finally gets it
But it's the users and it's the takers and it's the ones that just take without remorse and that's where it becomes or even just the fact of giving too much of yourself without giving yourself a break to recharge. We need to recharge from all of the giving, giving, giving, giving, giving and having it being taken taken and some people just you want to take all of you excessively with all of their drama and trauma and all other things related but it's all good. It
Now dementors in Harry Potter are creatures that thrive on your energy and your sadness, and they make you even more less energetic and make you feel like you're in a dark space and all of that. Having said that, I truly believe that all of the folks who responded and homose anti the fact that you brought up this topic shows that there is still good out there in the world and as long as there is life, there is hope
Missy Jones
@lemrjane · 4:43
But, you know, it's hard out there. Don't stop caring. Keep caring. It's just, you know, it's hard. But, you guys, if I can freaking do it, you can freaking do it. Peace out