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@DBPardes
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:47

Sesssion 28: Can You Look Past the Behavior Into the Heart?

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And sometimes it's actually appropriate to say, wow, what you just said, incredibly, like, I'm responding to it, and I just want to know, how are you? What's going on? Before I react to it. Is this really what you wanted to say or behave as? Or is something going on?

#empathy #emotionalintelligence #kindness

@BlackGod
Complete Born Allah
@BlackGod · 4:52
You she was saying was communication with words. Words have meaning. More than anything. Everything have a meaning. Your understanding is the best understanding that is true indeed. It okay. Understanding is in the supreme alphabet. S-C-S-E-A-C-E seeing with your eyes is a clear picture C E, meaning deep in property. Understanding the picture is worth a thousand words. Your understanding again. What she was saying was the best part. Your best part is best understanding
@FreeYourFlow
Lori Motola
@FreeYourFlow · 3:04
Heart and know what they were feeling, how they were feeling. And mostly just know that they are human and have a human heart in need of love and connection, just like all of us do. So I don't know. This is just a different spin on kind of the camp that you described. And again, there's that middle way
@chantalangeliqu
Chantal Angelique
@chantalangeliqu · 5:00

@DBPardes

I feel depressed a lot of the times I've been offered pharmaceuticals to help with that, and it's been like a lifelong struggle. And you talk about the feelings of being suicidal. That's how I feel. Because it's like, what's the alternative? Do I keep trying to fight, keep trying to be this person that I feel like I want to be or that I aspire to be and never actually reaching?
@chantalangeliqu
Chantal Angelique
@chantalangeliqu · 5:00

@DBPardes

And not only that, you have togetherness. So you're still getting that portion of physical in person connection, which is something I feel like we are lacking and we're going to continue to lack as technology continues to grow and continues to advance
@DearAuntyAng
Ann-Gela Kaye
@DearAuntyAng · 1:45
Hi, Deb. I just want to say this was extremely helpful and so timely. I listened to this well, last night, actually, as I was in the kitchen cooking, sitting with my niece, who is she just started her first job, and she has dealt with anxiety, maybe even depression. And it's her first job. She's 21
@RensLens
Renee 🪬
@RensLens · 4:58
And what I try to do with my children when they see poor behavior in another child and let's face it, that's a thing, right? Some kids, I try to give them a perception that allows them to have grace for the situation. So for instance, yes, this is bad behavior. And we also want to give children a chance to grow and learn and change. And so that would be looking past the behavior into the heart
@DBPardes
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:58

❤️❤️

I woke up this morning and just listened to some of these replies, all of them, and I started reswelling. And I realized I probably won't reswell every single one just because it's so valuable to hear. Not only how this concept resonates with all of you, but how it's framed in different lives and how it shows up in different lives, whether it be our own need to be understood or our need to take a breath and have patience with other people
@FeelBetterToday
Stephen King
@FeelBetterToday · 1:02
It still seems very easy to forget that they have stuff going on behind the curtain. They have experiences that they had earlier in the day which are salt and peppering, the way that they feel now, and how easy is for us to interpret what they're doing in front of our face, which is not what's going on side inside of them. And thanks for the reminder of this perspective
@Natureadds
Nikkeita Sharrma
@Natureadds · 5:00

#empathy #emotionalintelligence #kindness

And I saw everyone was kind of busy, and nobody was looking and looking around, or nobody was talking, no chitchatting, nothing. And then one of my friends, other friend, he asked me to meet him in the conference room. And that's where he told me that Chantal committed suicide. And I was shocked. Like anything, I was bemused as to what had happened, what had he just said. And that particular thing still remains with me
@Natureadds
Nikkeita Sharrma
@Natureadds · 3:06

#empathy #emotinalintelligence #kindness

I've done it several times, and once it also backfired because the other person thought that his or her privacy was invaded. But that was not my intention. But yes, I do make it a point to communicate, to lend an ear to the person. And because of that incident that happened, that suicide my friend committed was something that woke me from a thought which was never there. It was painful. It was disheartening to see him go like that after his death
@DBPardes
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:25

@Natureadds

When things like that happen, like you shared, we're changed. And it changes our behavior and it makes us realize just how fleeting life is and how troubled waters can be right under the surface of somebody's demeanor you don't know. I think also prolonged connection and exposure to another person helps us read them much better because we start seeing patterns and we start seeing true natures and it just helps us
@bsafaie
Bahareh Safaie
@bsafaie · 0:27

#spreadingkindness #understanding #seeingthegood #inspiration #awareness #lovingkindness

You. I could not love this any more than I do. I think your words are beautiful on point and very much needed. It's very important for people to think the way you do. And thank you for spreading your awareness and your love and the beauty you see in others. I love this. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for it
@bsafaie
Bahareh Safaie
@bsafaie · 4:54

@ohchantillylace #socialanxietyisinusall #youarenotalone #extrovertsarejustassociallyadverseasintroverts #yoursoulisbeautiful

You're still not giving up. And eventually that feeling of doom or dread or why am I here? And this and that won't be. So if you feel your bad feeling today, just know that tomorrow or the next day or the day after, you're going to be feeling a good feeling. So whenever you feel good, know that's not forever. Know whenever you're feeling bad, know that that's not forever either
@bsafaie
Bahareh Safaie
@bsafaie · 4:34

@ohchantillylace

You. Once again, I thought I really respect you and the things that you've said, and I've really taken to them. And so I do feel the need to want to just respond to some of the things you've said. And I appreciate your putting your time and your heart out there to all of us as far as people struggling. You were saying people struggle to do bad things. Oftentimes they do bad things and there's good and this and that
@Luchianna
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:50
They want me to know them. Because knowing the real them, if I know them on that level, I may run or stay. But yeah, I think most people, they're starting to learn. Like if we can, for example, look at our political system in this country, we can see people acting out because they never had that type of power, right? But you know that they're like a kid with a new toy. They're just playing with it
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