I've experienced both of these in my life. I think when you have so many friends along the way, some of them for a long time, some of them for a short time, all for different experiences and times in your life, there's different reasons for letting people go, right? I had a friend recently whose use of alcohol became an issue between us, and he became angry and abusive when he was drunk
Aayan Banerjee
@BasTalk · 2:28
And make them look forward and then walk backwards from there where you are right now and what you need to do to get to that because future goal. Just a thought, just a suggestion. Not trying to invade in your conversation, but it got me thinking. Anyway, thank you for the swell. Have a good day ahead
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 3:14
So we're having this conversation right now, which is so sublime and beautiful, because I'm confronted by this not often, but I have been, and it's not comfortable because friendships have ended. I've been ghosted and I try to take it personally and I'm like, whatever, that's not the time of life for this person. But when I've had to do it, it sucks because you can't pull the band aid off quickly because it never works
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 2:01
I'm just not feeling the chemistry. So at this stage, I'm not going to take it any further, which I think is a very elegant way to let someone go, because it's not them, it's not you, it's the chemistry. Right. And you kind of picked out the same thing there when you said, I'm just not drawn to being with you at the moment. I remember once calling a guy and saying, Did I call him?
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 2:22
So I had my evening with my friend and it was amazing. Oh, my gosh, we had so much fun. There was probably 80% essence of well, maybe 50% essence of the connection that we used to have. The joy of each other, what we love about each other. I actually planned an amazing evening of surprises. So I planned these different pit stops along the way of doing activities and taking her to people and places that I knew she would love. And she did
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:00
Thanks for that update. It's it's so nice to just have those moments that are in themselves just good without trying to fix things for the future. And just being aware that there are differences is and those differences are going to keep people feeling less spontaneous and flowing and safe. Maybe. But yet there's that history and it kept you guys buoyant. Just a reminder that having a little bit of time and having things to do, it makes so much sense