You'll record it, you don't like the way it sounds, you start over. I started over probably about 15 times, maybe nine or 15 times, and I just surrendered to the idea of not doing that. The old me, it's still there. It still toils around in my mind and psyche to where I don't want any form of criticism. And if you dish any form of criticism out, I will dish it back to you
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:04
It might take you a little while to work up to that 180, but you can measure your success by how you handle certain situations consistently over time, and then you'll know if you've really grown and changed. So hopefully this is helpful, and thank you so much for
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:22
I've been wearing some khakis, and my khaki pants that I bought, they were uncomfortable as fuck at first, but now they feel loose, and it's always weird because you don't notice it right away. And it's almost like I was daydreaming. Like, wait a minute, something's going on here. Like, are these pants feeling baggy or is it just me? And I tried these pants on my Levi jeans, my blue Levi jeans
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 2:13
Hey, jawan. I want to just acknowledge the value of this conversation for so many people, because it's the celebration of the change, too, that I think people miss. Like, change is tough, and milestones within that change are really important to note and say, wow, you know, I was 300 pounds, and now I'm one one, you know, 240, and now I'm 220
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:00
I still sent a birthday card, Christmas card, mother's, Father's Day, et cetera, et cetera. And I noticed that I changed last year. Really? Because even though they didn't send anything back, I didn't care. It didn't bother me anymore. I just loved the joy of the situation. It made me happy to do it. So I don't know, that's the way I changed. I think most recently
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:03
Hello, Deborah. Yes, pain or sorry, change is painful and it is worth celebrating. But it also is worth acknowledging. And thank goodness for the one who can overcome obstacles and even in failure, find change. Because sometimes it's not always crossing that finish line and everyone's cheering your name and you get a cash prize. Sometimes it's just simply you will only know that profound change you made and how painful it was for you to get to that point
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 1:07
I can remember a lot of times when people did great stuff for me and it they didn't have to. So good for you. Keep changing as well, for the better. And thanks for sharing your time with us
DAYDAY Mcclenton
@KINGPOPOFLA · 2:07
And when you grow up from those stages, far as not caring to caring, it's a beautiful thing, man. Because you can look back and be like, well, I once didn't give a fuck, but now you do. You know what I'm saying? It's a feeling that it's in your heart. Point blank, period. It's in your heart, in your mind. It's totally different. It looks at situations different. That's when you know you changed
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:02
And your friends heard you always talk about being single and how you're never going to find anyone, and now you're getting married. Post it on Facebook. Boom. You get over 500 likes from some people who don't even really talk to you all that much. But they know marriage is important. It's good. That's a big change. So they'll like it
StephStyle +
@StephStylePlus · 4:46
Well, in this journey of healing and in therapy, one of the things that I learned was I didn't set boundaries. And so that's why I kept getting hurt. And I love and I felt like, I don't know, maybe it was just that a heavy most empaths are very nurturing, right? So we have empathy, sympathy, and we just think that we have to get out there and fix. Well, I realized that I'm not superwoman. I'm not superwoman
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 2:09
And of course, if you do too much of this, you can run the risk of people understanding or having a misunderstanding. That because you continually look at their views over your own and value and validate them. It does not necessarily mean you always agree. And when it is not often reciprocated, it can be hazardous to one's health. So over time, you begin to realize things youve not going to settle for any longer
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 2:53
Like, I don't feel great, but I feel okay. That's how I know. And, yeah, again, the reactions. I used to be the person and I've mentioned this before who was very reactive, and now I'm kind of like, man, as long as you're not doing the absolute most, I'm just not going to entertain certain things anymore. Now youve not going to be able to disrespect me