You might vote differently because all the things sort of line up and you're going to go, okay, I'll vote for that. But does it change your core values? I don't know. I think it's a beautiful thing to try to be around people who are compassionate for why you think a certain way, but can also pull you to see perspective without the imposition of wanting you to be different
Gary Brown
@garyplaysbone · 3:28
They expect you to be a certain way, and then you exhibit some kind of change, whether it be chess to checkers, backham. And for me, in my life, I loved music growing up, but I took on some jobs at startup companies. I didn't have time to play music anymore, so I wasn't really doing music for a long time. Then all of a sudden, I started playing music again and studying music again and taking every opportunity to perform music again
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:46
But it didn't square with everybody in my life. And they were like, well, are you doing music? Are you drawing a band? And I was like, no, not now. I think I'm a little worn out. And 14 years later, it's funny because I'm feeling a desire to do music again just because it brings me joy and I'm trying to figure out what that looks like
Gary Brown
@garyplaysbone · 1:08
Oh, yeah. I like what you have to say, Deborah, because, yeah, I mean, there's a difference between people who really see you. You know, I've heard that phrase before. Do people see you? Do they see you for who you are now? You're not a musician. You're something else. You're who you want to be in Los Angeles. And then there's people who don't see you
Jodi Lin
@JodiLin65 · 2:20
They say they've changed, but in the end, when it all comes down to it, they're the same old people they've always been. But I realize that everybody has a different opinion, different experiences. But mine, for the most part, is that I have come to realize and see that most people's personalities don't change. They're not forgiving, and they don't usually change in any kind of serious, significant way
Isoellen Writes
@Isoellen · 4:57
And it doesn't matter what job it is until I learn the routine and the people around me and the patterns around me, I have a hard time. But I like to hear positive and gentle reminder that, yes, of course, people change and all the ways they can change, because I didn't realize I had from that one statement, don't get into a relationship expecting somebody to change how I had kind of made that into something unchangeable, that that meant people couldn't change
Michelle Murad
@MichelleMurad · 4:46
So say you meet this person and you've been dating for, like, nine years, but you change within those nine years. That's not the same person that you met nine years ago. Right. So what happens then? I think if you're both on a spiritual path together, change can happen together. But both people can change, either together or separately, or one person changes and the other person doesn't change
Natasha Nurse
@DressingRoom8 · 2:01
It is a part of reality. What I think is in question is, are you changing for good and are you changing in alignment for you, or are people changing for society, changing for their partner, changing for all these external factors, some of them very much so needed. But I think the best change is the change that you dictate. It's the change that you define for yourself, and it's the change you drive as opposed to being changed because of your circumstances
Denise Adame
@mamasocal · 1:40
And I feel like I get that because I physically have changed. So, yes, in that way, yes, a person can change, right. In a physical way. And then, no, I'm still the same. I'm still like the same fun person I was six years ago. I just don't drink alcohol. In that form. I did change
Gary Brown
@garyplaysbone · 2:13
I stopped eating dairy, and I don't even want to go into why, but people will start asking, like, oh, you ordered that without any cheese on it. You don't like cheese? What's going on? So people will detect and try to pull you back sometimes, maybe even with alcohol. But I also wanted to mention that certain behaviors, like, for example, you want to start telling the truth more often. You want to start being more social
Pritha Lal
@lifecoachPritha · 2:40
So it's interesting, as we grow older, where we think being fickle might not be so much as a reflection of integrity. And yet a person who's adaptable and adapting to changes is looked upon as a survivor, as a thriver. So it's very circumstantial. But, yeah, I feel people do change. Just different motivators at different points in. Thank you. Always, always wonderful. Deborah, your prompts. I get to them slow and steady because they are so profound
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Archana Bapat
@Jindagi_Rojana · 2:03
And of course the people around us, they get shocked because they also need to change according to our change. And sometimes it's not that pleasant. But let's not go further into it. At present, what I need to stress on is changes are mandatory. You have to. But growth is optional. So when you are changing, consciously, mindfully, you will grow. And these changes are always welcome
It. This was really interesting to me. I love that you framed. Do people change or do people change their mind? I love the idea of change is growth. I agree with what you said about being entrenched. You know, being open to new ideas, I think is a sign of genius