And this includes people who maybe have married into a family where their partners had a child and that first time when you bonded with them, I'm I just think it's beautiful to hear stories like this. So thanks for indulging, and I look forward to hearing your voice here
souzan snores
@souzanalavi · 0:36
You. That was such a beautiful memory. Thank you for sharing it. It was just incredible. I guess my question to you is, which is I can't help but myself, but to ask questions is what did you learn about being a father? Or what would you tell someone that you've learned about being a father that you didn't know? Anyway, I'm a dad's girl, so this is a big topic for me
Bobby Noble
@the_mcoachpilot · 3:54
Being a first time father at a relatively, comparatively advanced age, being really close to 40. I've only been a father for these past 17 years, and he has been easy to raise. And I found myself questioning, what did I actually do? Just actually being present, I guess, was all there was that was needed. Just remaining present, remaining someone engaged. And it wasn't required that I that I'd hover over him in that
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
souzan snores
@souzanalavi · 0:33
Hi. I love the photograph. I really appreciate the advice. I think it's incredibly important to take it one day at a time and do the best you can. But more importantly, forgive yourself for when it feels like it's not going the way you'd like. But I think fathers are really important. Ah. Really, really, really important. Thanks again
souzan snores
@souzanalavi · 0:19
You. This is such a great photograph. I love your expression. And I love that she's, like, laughing as well. And it's so incredibly warm. Must have been an amazing day. She is a very lucky girl. Or woman, in this case. No
souzan snores
@souzanalavi · 0:49
You. That's a beautiful story and incredible moment that you've shared. It's so incredibly important. Not all of us learn how to be a parent. I don't think there's a manual. And some of us have experienced not an amazing situation to be able to heal from that, but to move forward simultaneously is a gift. It doesn't always work that way. I also wanted to ask you, what is the one thing you've learned that you would feel comfortable sharing?
souzan snores
@souzanalavi · 0:57
It must have been torturous for you to wait until you could do it. So that must have been an amazing moment for you. Thank you for sharing that story. I wanted to ask you, too, if you don't mind telling me, what what is the one thing you learned about being a dad that you would be willing to share? Thank you
Bobby Noble
@the_mcoachpilot · 4:51
It. I guess the one thing that I can say that I learned about being a dad and I'm still learning now, it's a learning process. It's ongoing. Even after they leave the household and move on. You're always learning from them. And I always refer to my son when I refer to him, I say you've been pretty easy to parent. Well, all these years that have gone by in a blur
souzan snores
@souzanalavi · 0:52
You. Hi. So first I want to say happy Father's Day. I know it's a couple of days early. I think what you've learned is really impactful and interesting, a sense of purpose that makes a lot of sense. I think it's funny that you keep saying you haven't done anything. Clearly you've done something
Wren .
@aBirdieOnaWire · 4:58
I was learning on the job because I didn't really have my dad in my life. He left when I was about eight years old and left my mother with five kids on her own. After that, he wasn't really around. And when he was, it wasn't really a very positive experience
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:37
Hey, Wren. Oh, my God. This was such a meaningful reply on so many levels. You know, I've known you for over a year now. More than a year, I think, on swell. And it's been so great to get to know you and your stories. And this one oh, my God, you just blew my mind. That slipping of the scissor and bearing down and that struggle, but the ultimate release. I mean, that metaphor is beyond gorgeous
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:38
Bobby, thank you so much for taking us down this incredible memory of yours and the adoption and the preemie and the I mean yes, you're right. You need to do a second swell on this. Will you do that and do a hashtag Father's Day so I can find it? I would really love to hear the full story of your journey. And thank you so much for talking about presence. I think that's a theme here for sure, just being present
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:42
I'm I'm looking forward to this thread just flowing, and perhaps more people will just add over this over the course of the few days running up to dad's day. And thank you both so much. And thank God, your parents it's a gift
Matt Cardenas
@SanedracSays · 4:03
I'm sure there's probably a lot of more seasoned dads out there, but it was such a whirlwind experience. My wife went into labor at like two, three in the morning and we drove to the hospital and she was in labor for a good 20 hours. And when it was time for her to start pushing, she was pushing for like a good hour, hour and a half before baby girl finally came out. And it was crazy to me because I was so focused on my wife
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:15
Oh, Matt, that's such a beautiful moment you shared, wanting just a family of three to have just five more minutes. Looking forward to seeing pictures of your August experience. What a joy. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. Really
Dharmin Chanda
@bombayblues · 3:51
And yeah, both seem like really serene experiences in that sense. And yeah, I see resounding amount of resemblances, not just with looks, especially with the boy, but I've been so informed by my parents that it's like reliving the whole experience of your childhood as in my childhood. And yeah, that to me speaks volumes about obviously why I relate to him so much. So that's that
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:38
Hey, Darmy. It's such a sweet reply. And thank you for your thoughts and a little you. I mean, it must be amazing. And when your child individuates and becomes their own person, that's that's really extraordinary too. When you see parts of yourself and them and then they change your mind about what's possible and what the world has to offer and what the world will get from this beautiful little being, it's a beautiful thing. Thank you so much for sharing