Definitely always encourage, always help, but do not befriend to that level or do not befriend to that emotional level so that you have that security. Definitely not saying be paranoid with life, but definitely stay guarded and let people prove themselves to you with time before you open the door to letting them in. Let people get to know who they are themselves first before embracing them into your inner sanctum. So that's all I want to say there, guys
Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 1:38
And this one in particular, I think when you have a big open heart and you're kind and you're confident, you feel like you have the capacity to kind of connect to everybody all the time, every wear, and ultimately, it could just kind of put a little hole in your boat and you don't rise as much as you need to. There's a balance, right?
Symone Marie
@academia_maven · 0:37
Ahead. Deborah, thank you so much for your comment. And, yes, that's definitely true. I think we have experienced that, especially, like when you're confident we've all experienced that hurt sometimes of befriending low vibrational people or people who kind of don't know who they are yet, and it can be a grievous process. And so I really appreciate you sharing your insight and your experience as well
But I had to tell myself, I would rather hurt now than to hurt ten years down the line. I would rather shed my tears now than to cry the rest of my life. So I thank you for this. And another thing to add to what you're saying, my husband always say you got to stop calling people real until you really get to know them, because that real may once really be fake, because everyone can put on a mask until that mass fall off
Dr. Tee D.
@BTWNLVRS · 0:34
Hi. Such a great topic. You know, sometimes there are friends that people have already had for years and even decades that can grow into their own insecurity, and that can diminish the friendship. It can cause them to be resentful or envious or even jealous. And so sometimes they don't even know they're befriending someone like that because the person wasn't like that from the start. But I love this topic because the topic is so real, it's so raw
Symone Marie
@academia_maven · 0:30
Hey, Stacy. Great insight. I loved what you spoke, especially about just taking the time first to make sure that not calling everybody real, but taking the time to actually get to know people first before befriending them. And you're right. It does sometimes happen with people that you've known for the longest as your friend. And that can be tough, too. I don't know why that happens, but sometimes that does happen, too
Symone Marie
@academia_maven · 0:29
Hey, T. That is so true. You can know people for years, and they can turn into a resentful or jealous person, and that's tough to deal with or to bear. And I think that's why this has to be talked about a little bit more, so that people don't feel like they're the only ones that's going through this or dealing with it, because it happens on such a wide scale
Natalie McKone
@N0vasCi3ze · 3:49
Like, I'm 32 now and if I had had some buddy, especially an older woman, letting me know that this is a thing back when I was just kind of starting out into my social life, I would have been very helpful and I would have been a lot better for it. I think that this is something that everybody should hear and to be honest with you, I can see myself on the flip side too