"Be who you really are"…
You must first be who you really are, then do what you really need to do in order to have what you want. What is it that you know you need to do in order to get where you want to go in order to have the things you know you truly want? Is it cutting bad friendships? Is it cutting certain people out of your life? What is it? Is it changing personal habits to fit the necessity of both time and effort and energy for you personally?