In my opinion, personally, it is AOK to drain off those emotions and have a good cry every now and then. Okay? But I wanted to ask you guys, is it okay for a man to cry? Let me know
October Selfcare
@Selfcare · 1:50
Women want men to be sensitive, emotional, and different, things like that. But the first thing that show emotion is crying and things like that. And it's crazy that women would laugh at a man crying, but would they'll laugh at their children of young boys crying? When a young boy cry, the mother run and see what's wrong with him. When a man cry, you laugh at him. It's only an age difference from a man to a boy
But for me, it's often a sign of overwhelm. I'm experiencing a lot of emotion processing, a lot of data processing, a lot of sensory experience. Like there's so much going on that my body is in overwhelm. And that comes out sometimes as tears, sometimes as anger. But it's when it happens in tears, when it's misinterpreted, then as sadness or whatever else, right? When there's more going on
I wish I could applaud you, but my one hand is holding the phone. I just wanted to express just gratitude for the emphasis behind or at least my I'm getting a little emotional over here because it means so much to me that we cherish and celebrate humans. Humans first gender stuff is secondary, maybe even way down on the list, but to celebrate humans and all that we are and I think the gender stuff gets us all confused of shoulds and odds
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 3:32
Because as a human, those emotions that God has given us becomes a time we have to express them. When you are going through a difficult situation, you try to hold back, be strong, be brave, becomes a time where holding back is no longer an option. And then you let it go, release it. People can laugh. You should not worry about that. And those are not kind of people you would like to be around, right? Because they want you to be somebody else
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 3:16
I mean, I understand that these stereotypes have been entrenched in our societies for the longest of time. I have seen little boys picking on their friends, the guy friend who is crying and saying that, oh, are you a girl? Why are you crying? So the stereotyping is deeply intense and we must get out of it. And we can only get out of it by becoming empathetic and not gender biased. I mean, this is the stupidest thing, in my opinion
That's drama, you know what I mean? That definitely don't describe me. So I'm thinking like it's been like this rush and me and plum go at it at least once a month out of all the men's issues that we have. Prostate cancer, high blood pressure, all that. This is the thing that's born, this is the healthiest thing for us
I guess you understand what I'm saying. I come from a place, not a completely violent place, but I come from a place where we handle our business. Inside the neighborhood, ain't nobody called the cops. People got dealt with. Cops wasn't coming anyway for a good amount of time. You understand what I'm saying? We stayed to ourselves one way about nobody coming and shooting nobody in my neighborhood because we ain't called the cops
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:29
You. Thank you for this wonderful swell. And my answer is yes, absolutely. It is okay for a man to cry, you know, if my husband was crying in front of me, the first thing I would want to do is say, hey, baby, what is the matter? What's wrong? You know, out of concern, because what I've noticed is that men really don't cry that much in front of women
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:54
And I'm not saying that you can't continue to sulk about it the next day, but you should be in different headspace where you can start to be able to articulate the beginning chapters of your next steps that you're going to take. It
October Selfcare
@Selfcare · 3:07
Right? But beyond that point, we still are human beings. And our feelings from our atmosphere of if I was raised with my mother, my auntie, my grandmother and I didn't have that man testosterone, I'm going to have a lot of emotional but I'm still a man. And that's the only thing that I will want you to speak on more about. Why is it a limit when a man is crying?
You got one shot at that. You got to know how to act. It's kind of like if your girls say that, hey, babe, I'm pregnant, you better know what to say. You better know what to say quick, you know what I mean? Instead of some stuff like, it ain't mine or whatever, you know what I mean? You got to be like, okay, babe, I'm ready, or whatever. But if you they're like, what?
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:52
If you go back and play my response again, I said it's not that he's not able to have more emotional periods. He just is going to have to have a period where he, okay, let me get myself together, set the plan, delegate some tasks, and then I can get back to designating space to cry or experience whatever emotion he's experiencing. Let me repeat it again. He can get back to that, but he still has to remember his responsibilities
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 5:00
So if I wait, something hit me hard now and I wait till I get home so I can, you know, I can cry. The intensity of what hit me is no longer the same. So do I have a place that only this place? Then I can express it because I am where I am now. I cannot express anything. So this is a question
That's part of being male. You can't get away from that, especially if you want to be with a woman and have children. You got to step up to that with no question. With no question. I don't want to be in the house, in a restaurant, anywhere in the city, walking around watching everybody shop or whatever the case may be. And they feel in some type of way because they can't enjoy themselves because they're scared to death
Come on, man. So, yeah, you have a responsibility. Is there a time limit? Yes. Because if the war is going on in the living room, you can't be in the bedroom crying. I'm sorry. We got to do the job whether we like it or not. We got trans men that's more masculine than natural men. Wait till that one starts. Since the women's going through their thing about a woman that was assigned a woman at birth and all that
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 5:00
When I was a single father, I knew how to protect my family and we all knew and we don't have to describe here and working hard to bring to put the food on the table and be there when the family needs you dies, no doubt. Has no worry about that. My support in this conversation was just a man can cry when you are going from a difficult moment. Nothing to do if it is fighting gang. And you have to show your strength in front of the kids
And basically, I guess I was saying that yes, because I did talk about crying just with my wife or by myself, and it would take a lot of trust for me, even with my wife, that would be down the line, you know what I mean? But to be able to do that and still have my priorities where I can hold it
October Selfcare
@Selfcare · 4:12
Do you think you can step up in that position where he's at and do what he was doing and still not belittle him or not making him feel less than because he have not got over the grief?
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
SOUL MIND
@BEAUTIFULSOULMI · 1:29
I was pretty far along in my pregnancy, and it was heartbreaking to us both. So it was a bonding moment for me. So, yes, I do think that a good cry can cleanse the soul. That's what I say. Crying cleanses the soul
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:26
And so we have to teach people how to comfort us or be of support to us in different time and space. And so with that being said, I can't say I'm going to give someone, especially as a person who's lost their father tragically and suddenly back in 2016, I can't say I'm going to give someone a year or two years or three years or six months to grieve and that's it. Or go through what they are going through and that's it
Travis W
@twalls2023 · 0:39
It. I agree with you 150%. I think it's absolutely okay for men to cry instead of holding it all in. I men. The world makes it seem like men do not and should not have any type of emotions at all. I completely disagree, and I hope more men hear this and are able to cry it out whenever they need to. All right, brother. Thank you
I can imagine the whole family hurt, everybody crying, and then your wife jump up and say, all right, let's get it together now. Let's go. We got to go forward, you know what I mean? And then pull you up with the kids. Hell of a woman and nigga daddy. But I don't know. If she wants that job, then good. If she don't want that job, who else going to do it?
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 2:57
But every now and then, if you feel like you need to cry, yeah, definitely go ahead and cry. Hopefully, you have people in your life that have created a safe place for you that you can cry in front of them, and maybe they'll even cry with you. The Bible says to weep with those that weep and rejoice with those that rejoice, so hopefully they'll even be able to cry with you. But, yeah, I think men can and should cry
Sedrick Lovett
@lamart326 · 2:44
Men have dealt with things in the past, and they have a lot of things bottled up in them. And I don't know, it's just like certain women, they trying to spin the narrative, Mike. They such a good woman, and they want to be by a man's side. But then you have these little comments, Mike. If they see a man know, they gonna laugh at gonna they gonna poke fun at them