simmonette M
@thinkingoutloud · 0:59
Marriage , relationships , self esteem
You, everyone. I'm just thinking out loud this morning. It's like I'm just here wondering why marriages and relationship now are not lasting. Is it more easy to let go than to try? I know. I'm trying to wonder like why are we not trying any more? Why we are thinking like giving up is easy. I'm just seeing a lot of relationship. It's just being forgotten. Like they never existed. I would like to know what you guys think
I'm not sure exactly why that became normal, the narrative, but it definitely seems to be pretty popular to be able to just go through, even if it's not marriage, it's just relationships so interchangeably. Many people go from one relationship to the next rather quickly, and they don't take time for themselves to heal or to process some of the difficulties or challenges that they may have faced in that relationship
Ava K
@Learningtobeme · 4:51
Because I feel that people are still on their journey to understand of what is exactly they want. People sometimes say in front of you, or like they'll reply, oh, I know what I want, I want this, I want that in a relationship. But trust me, they are still trying to figure that out themselves. And that will only happen through experience
simmonette M
@thinkingoutloud · 5:00
I don't think beauty going to fulfill my need right now because we are backing up in mortgage or I don't think he being handsome and always losing his job going to help me to reach where I wanted to go. So then the confusion and people now reflecting in the marriage like I think I made the wrong decision. I think a divorce might be the best way to see if I can find someone now that can fulfill my needs
simmonette M
@thinkingoutloud · 4:39
Because they are two different individual living different lives. But they're thinking maybe one can change the other or one might became better when they get married. So I feel all of this is causing marriage to be dissolved because people are really going into marriage with the wrong decision. Maybe thinking that it's like playing Dolly house when he was a kid or playing with the toys. But they are not taking marriage serious. Marriage is very serious
Glorietta Garrett
@Gglorga57r · 4:48
You. Let's try this again. My TV was on and it was blaring very loudly. But anyway, my views on marriage is such. I believe I got married because I was in love with my husband. Did I have a whole lot of work to do? Yes. I had to work on myself first before I can even begin to think that something was wrong with the person that I married. I think marriage is growth, marriage is compromise
simmonette M
@thinkingoutloud · 2:49
But what happened when both parties don't see the positive in fighting for your marriage? I think all marriage is worth fighting for, but once it's not abuse and cheating and over doing stuff that is unhealthy. But even if marriage is worth fighting for and sometimes you have to love yourself and look deep down into yourself, what about the next party? Would this be only you trying to compromise to make they feel happy?
Oraida Levi
@TalkswithOraida · 4:46
And it would have been relatively hard for her to become a single mother and find employment and find somebody to take care for her kids. Because she chose to marry my grandfather, her family kind of disowned her. So she made her bed and she had to lay in it and it went on for a couple of years and unfortunately towards the end of his illness he came to senses and their marriage was better. Now, fast forward to current era