(Early Episode) Ep. 6: Double "Standards" (6-Parts)
And it's fascinating. Now, the biggest question that I have of this is 25 years ago, when this show aired, I believe it's between 97 and 98. There was no social media. There was no Internet in the common way that we know it now, in the modern sense, maybe message boards, but we still lived and died by media, on television, radio, and print. We, in my personal opinion, as well rounded of a show as Sex in the City is
This is a great deal of how people started to understand the significant others, what it was like to ask a girl out, what it was like to have a platonic relationship that evolved into romance. So the idea of gender dynamics and pursuit of romance was really spoken to us through the filter of a screenwriter and a director, and mostly it was through a male gaze. So a lot of these movies were extremely well written
And in a culture now where we have these assumptions and these very pretentious and selfish and childish expectations of what another gender should be, the idea of a show coming about that men are able to exist in a paradigm that isn't leaning into bravado, that isn't leaning into success and the expectation of male gender oriented goals
Even when we do cover it and we discuss how lost and how harm can hurt a man, at least in the west, it always comes with a caveat. One of my favorite cowboy movies, Unforgiven, is about how violence affects cowboys, because here in the west, we were conditioned for so long to look at the western, the cowboy as the archetype for the American male for the longest
What is it like to go through a world where they are pursuing women that may be, quote unquote, out of their league because they may not have enough money in the way women look at them. They need to be able to discuss what is it like dating outside of their race, or what it would be like to figure out that they may be attracted to someone in their quote unquote same gender
We lose the ability to grow. I, no matter how long I live, will never know what it's like to be a woman. I will never understand the plights that women go through, whether that be black women, white women, Asian women and all the nuances that it comes with. It trans women. Whatever you identify as the only way for me to learn how you feel is by listening to what you say
