Theo Seibold
@Thatoneweirdo · 4:59
"Are you ok?"
Someone gets injured or someone's having a tough time or someone they haven't seen for a while. Are you okay? Also, the other side of it is how are things going? But are you okay? It's really specific. It's almost meant to be kind of mending. And it's concerning. I mean, people ask this and really mean it. But lately for me struggling, I've kind of had this really weird take on the question
And if you say yes, well, then there's an easy way to sort of you can step back and walk away. I don't know. I've always found that question weird. I don't know how to answer that question. If someone asks me, I don't think I've ever answered it truthfully or not truthfully. I don't know that I've ever answered it by saying no, because what does that even mean? Am I mentally in a place of unaliving myself? No
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:55
And so that's when I was able to then find my what makes sense to me? Answer to that question of why does Are you okay? Bother me. And the reason why it doesn't sit well with me when people ask and I understand they're coming from a well intentioned space when they say it
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 4:04
Now, when it's to closer acquaintances that are asking, when they know, especially with my separation this is just some recent examples, I guess they'll ask often they'll ask a question, how do you feel? And I think that's one that I'll go to also when I know someone is hurting or having things going on is I'll be like, how are you feeling? And it to me, is just so much more personal
Theo Seibold
@Thatoneweirdo · 5:00
And I knew he wasn't in the best place medically, but I finally had a point where I needed to kind of break away from that. I had done so much of his caregiving and then just a couple of years before that did a bunch of my mother's caregiving. So it was very exhausting. And my girlfriend at the time, a newly minted girlfriend, kind of knew that was part of the package, but she tried to get me to kind of disassociate from that