As healers, you need to help them to moan, to weep, to cry out loud, to worry and to went. You stand there like a rock beside them so that they just know you are there whenever they may need you. And then when they have welcomed all of these issues and pain, when they have walked through and wallowed in it. Someday when your strength stands by them, they will wake up free from all of it. And that's because of you. Be a great healer