I want people to leave happier than they did coming through the door. And I feel like when you're dating, it should be the same way. Like shouldn't constantly be full of fighting and conflict and being angry and being upset. It should be an enjoyable experience. And even if you're not looking to settle down one person and you're looking to interact with multiple people and constantly date, that's fine too. But is the experience enjoyable?
Marley Musarra
@MarleyMusarra · 0:40
I think this is such a stellar analogy, and it's something that I really never would have thought of, but I feel like you did such a good job putting it together, and I'm like, oh, d***, she's right. It is kind of like customer service
So maybe if we could continue this analogy and say it's like a fancy high end boutique store where it's appointment only and there is a questionnaire that's required to serve as a qualifying document. I don't know, I'm just trying to think of words as I go because I haven't didn't give this too much thought. But I know what I'm trying to say and it's just that in your analogy it seems as though customer service does relate to dating
Drea Nicolle
@shoutin2thevoid · 1:27
It was just funny to hear her rattling off, like, her grievances and how similar it came to the aspects of being a great customer service rep. And I was just like, oh, my goodness. If people basically took customer service and just looked at the criteria, and if they were to apply this in their everyday life, as well as dating, people would probably do better with dating. So that's where it came from. And I just do feel that it was such a good analogy
Drea Nicolle
@shoutin2thevoid · 2:58
But I feel like in customer service, it doesn't really matter what part or what level of customer service you're in, as long as you are a good customer service rep. Like, if you're really good at what you're doing, you typically tailor your experience. You would tailor the customer's experience to the customer service that you're providing
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 2:52
On some examples, I could see why you chose this as an analogy, but I think in some ways this highlights your pretty privilege to where you never had to worry about customers, you've always had the customers. So at that point it's about establishing these levels of relation in terms of sociability. Whereas some people out there with great customer service skills have a business or establishment that is just not popular and it won't matter at all
I think that eventually in life, as we get older, if we don't have good character traits, good morals, good principles, then suddenly the pretty face only reciprocates the same level of internal energetic affair. So whether that's non commitment or whether that's dishonest or whether that's partying and drinking and promiscuous being promiscuous, I don't know
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:58
Pretty privilege does exist, but it does not mean if you do not have this, you are not capable of landing a date. My ugly ask in a test, I have landed plenty of dates and I have no pretty privilege to speak of. In fact, I seem to attract those that have, quote unquote, pretty privilege
Drea Nicolle
@shoutin2thevoid · 3:21
Don't get me wrong, I'm not going to sit here and pretend that people don't treat people who are more attractive better sometimes. But I can say within my case, I've never had someone just be like, oh, let me give you the world just because you're a pretty face. It's never happened. I've always had to work for everything
Drea Nicolle
@shoutin2thevoid · 3:11
She's pretty, or she's stupid because she's pretty, or she can't possibly have any depth or value to her because she's pretty. And pretty girls are just dumb and all they want is to gold dig and things like that. So I feel like pretty girl privilege, to me, it's a hater thing. It's like people use that as a way to try to snide pretty people
Now, I don't believe that society's label of attraction is the poster board for attraction either. So that's a whole other side tangent that we can get in. But if we're trying to keep this all in line with what the initial intent for mentioning this was, it is very healthy. Even in your second response to me today, you recognize that there is a factor played in being attractive
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:30
But if you're an attractive s***** person you may never even have to really think about it that often. You can literally skate through the dating scene unscathed just even making an account you probably will have, especially if you're a woman, you'll have like 50 and plus messages. Now like you said, they may be airheads but there are some people out there who don't have the luxury of even the airheads looking their way. But what's the trade off with this?
Drea Nicolle
@shoutin2thevoid · 3:10
One thing I was always taught while working in customer service is that I can teach too many things, but I can't teach you personality, right? And so I feel like the personality is what separates people from other people. It's what separates us. Do you have a good personality? Do you have good customer service skills? Are you providing a great experience when you're dating?