I love someone very dearly, but recently found out that that person has caused a trauma to someone else that I love very dearly and would give my life for. Yet out of all these years that I have known this person and interacted with this person, with the secret that was kept from me, that this person felt comfortable enough some 20 odd years later to share the secret. And to this day, that situation has been as if it was something that completely went over my head