Well, it's because a normal person with normal empathy, possibly socially cultivated empathy, experiences the emotions that he or she feels personally on a personal basis, the pain that he or she feels on a personal basis, the pleasure or happiness or satisfaction that the person feels on a personal basis. However, a person who's got a high degree of empathy experiences it not just for himself or herself, but also for everybody around him
Reshma Sanyal
@reshmasanyal · 3:39
Hi Shafali. Very, very interesting topic on empathy. A lot of the times we kind of reply to these questionnaires online about IU and empath and you know, we get we scored high and we come away with the sort of smug feeling that hey, you know what, I'm an empath, I'm able to feel your pain. But of course, like you've said, it's far beyond that
shafali anand
@shafali · 4:59
And you feel sadder and you feel unhappier and you just feel miserable all the time. You start losing your sleep, you start having eating disorders. There are a lot of physical manifestations of this and the overall effect is that an empath suffers. So thanks for sharing that. And now because I would really like to steer this discussion away from the negative part of it, so let us talk about something else entirely, something else that you mentioned
shafali anand
@shafali · 3:11
So be a little conscious of people around you. Understand their motives, understand why they are doing things and why they are unburning themselves to you. If you feel that it is okay, then you allow themselves then you allow them to come in, then you allow them to unburden themselves to you. But otherwise try to be safe. And this is something that only you can ensure. Nobody else can. Others won't even understand it. So I wish you the best on this journey
Reshma Sanyal
@reshmasanyal · 1:25
Hi. Hi. Thanks for listening so well and so hard and picking out just the little c**** in the armor. I was just going to say, great recluse. I wouldn't have said anything else. And it's just that in my life I met, like, all sorts of people, but but I've never met somebody as talented as you wanting to hide so bad and hide away from everything so bad
Reshma Sanyal
@reshmasanyal · 1:09
And that's amazing for me to see because, I mean, we haven't been in touch, but I know you from when? 2002? And yeah, you are like my first mentor in a professional capacity. So of course there's a whole lot of respect. And to see you come out and spread the love is very nice for me also because it at last finally gives me some kind of a passageway to get to you. That is all. Okay, see you
Aayan B
@aayanisms · 3:16
And so my submission is that HSPs, or people with IB, intuitive, emotional intelligence, understand process, receive more information than most others, and that actually is a superpower and not a disadvantage, because along with such processing, also have the other voice. The other voice being intelligence rationalization. Anand when these things come together, then it makes for a stronger person. Sometimes we choose not to go the other side, as in the other side of being emotionally receptive to being rationally active
:max_bytes(150000):strip_icc()/Stocksy_txpde7a9f40DKN100_Medium_528134-58a8d25a3df78c345b4dccd6.jpg)
shafali anand
@shafali · 2:16
But I also think that you met me when I was about to leave an IIT, when I had lost all interest in what I was doing because of the kind of politics which was happening around. Well, forget it. We'll talk about it. We'll talk about other things today when we talk in about 15 minutes more than bye
shafali anand
@shafali · 4:04
So probably somebody else can do it, we can do it too. But then it's not easy. It's really not easy. And I think there is another dimension to it where the empath, who knows that unburdening can result in transferring the burden to somebody else. The empath then, doesn't unburden himself or herself or anybody else, because they realize what it means to be burdened by somebody else's thoughts, and they don't want to do the same thing to others
Binati Sheth
@Binati_Sheth · 3:19
So I think we are not ready to have that deeper empathetic conversation that needs to be had about empathy and what it really means, because in a lot of instances, people mean something else when they use the word empathy. That's what I see. Empathy is, I think, an incredibly human trait and it is impossible to not feel empathy for someone. Right. The difference lies in how much or how little you act on it