Question of the Day: When is there last time you gave someone a sincere apology?
Now, I'm not saying, like, when you bumped into somebody at the store. Like, we Minnesotans, do we give the oh, sorry. I got like, a million of those. What I'm looking for is the most sincere apology. I want to see some humility. I can't really think of one at the moment. I know I give a lot of apologies because I think it's a Minnesotan thing. In Minnesota for being honest is basically just southern Canada
2 cents
@the2cents · 1:06
Accountability means that, okay, whatever treatment you get back from that is due to that. Whatever it is that you did to offend someone or whatnot. So taking accountability for that and understanding what you did to that person
You the last time I apologize probably to my mom last week, and because, you know, I suffer from depression, and my father passed away, and my mom, she hasn't been the same, but at the same time, you know, everything is, like, super negative. And I was like, mom, just give me you know, just give me a break, just for a minute. We're on the way to the store or whatever
And maybe your wife or your girlfriend or you know what I mean, whoever it is can be like, I see what you was trying to do, man, but you got to understand, I absolutely do, and it'll never happen again. And be serious about it, you know what I mean? Because if you sincere, you're going to start hurting just like them. And when you say it's never happened again, it's like a forced empathy
Kuuipo MeKealoha
@Werk_it_0ut · 5:00
And my mom, she grew up in a tough family. I mean, tough, in she was never told, I love you. She was never told, I was proud of you. As a cultural she's Filipino, so as a cultural woman, there were so many expectations of her that sometimes in cultures, when you have so much expectancy of you, it's so expected that people don't thank you for it
You. Hey, sister. I mean, I get I get exactly where you're coming from. And I only looked at it through the time and how it affects relationships and, like, you know, like, siblings. And when you get to that, like, middle thirty s. Forty s, you know what I mean? It's tough because that's when a lot of people friends are getting sick. I've lost a lot friends
SOUL MIND
@BEAUTIFULSOULMI · 4:06
I didn't grow up with my mom and dad, and I wanted to feel that void that was in me for my daughter. And I told her that she deserved that family unity. And she said to me, mom, if we lived in a one bedroom apartment, I would have loved you more. I felt like you were ignoring me because you were dealing more so of how you felt and how dad was making you feel. And all I could do was say, I'm sorry
Peter Ely
@Peter_Ely · 1:12
Because that means that you've done nothing to apologize for, which is just a really lovely way to live your life. Right. I've missed meeting, and I've apologized for wasting purpose time and things like that, right. But I don't think I've hurt anybody by my actions or inactions in a long, long time. And thank you for making me realize that, because that's what the question did. Have a lovely day. Bye
Hey, Peter, thank you for replying to this. I always like seeing what people have to say. When I put the question of the day up, I should be apologizing because I haven't been able to get to replying to everybody in a way that I would like to. So I'm working on it. But I just wanted to say that I agree with you. I think that not being able to recall the last time you had to sincerely apologize to somebody is a good thing
But there was a point in time where my previous wife wanted me to move away from my daughter, and it just caused a lot of anguish and turmoil, just a lot of hard feelings. And needless to say, it was the reason that it ended. But leading up to that point, we had many other issues happening in the house that kind of broke the house all the time and caused a lot of emotional distress. And my family caught on to this. And my friends
But I do think that owning up to it and taking accountability, I think it really shows that you acknowledge that maybe not necessarily that you were wrong about something, but you acknowledge that you could have possibly offended somebody or maybe you were being disrespectful. And the crazy thing is, not every single time does that person feel offended or feel disrespected. They may not even really notice. But somebody acknowledging these things in an apology or taking that accountability, it really shows character
You. Hey, scribe, I just wanted to reply to you. I think you've replied on a few of my things and I really just need to be better about responding to people. So I apologize for that. Anyway, I really enjoyed your answer. It's very complex. There's a lot of different levels to it, and I really appreciated that. I think the thing about accountability and also not making the apology for you is definitely a big thing