And we as couple spouse, friends, we arguing that we don't even know some of the things that we say in the argument. And other people know our argument more than we know our argument. Something wrong with that. It that means I'm thinking, and I just, like, get some feedback is when you argue, is you arguing to be heard? Are you arguing to make a point, or the disagreement sometimes is best just to walk away
Rocío (Ro) Christensen
@rocio · 1:09
And then it uncovers something that's under the surface that's much bigger. It but, yeah, I don't know where I heard this from, actually, I should look into it, but I remember somebody saying this phrase about, like, when you're in an sorry, that's my dog howling in the background. When you're in an argument with your partner, it's not one partner versus the other. It's both partners against this problem. Them
October Selfcare
@Selfcare · 1:14
You're 100% right. It's always the little things that always seem like it's the problem in a relationship, friendship and just in family, we can get over the big things but we never can get over the small things. And in relationships it seemed like a person just want to be heard and right but never want to be a student to learn what the other person is feeling
I mean, makes no difference who really is right or wrong at times. Now, only at times, because there is a difference in who's right or wrong. But sometimes you have to understand the words that you're throwing out there and really brace your position. Get the right words, and the arguments will subside. They may not end, but they'll subside in any favor, especially with your spouse. Sometimes you don't need to win. There's no real winning to it