Communicating around differing perceptions.
And really, my point in putting this swell out there is because I'm curious, is it something that other people experience? Regardless of your wiring, your brain wiring, do you experience things that you think are beautiful but don't want, and things that you think are beautiful and do want? And do you communicate these things differently? Should I just stop commenting about the details and and just say, that's nice, like, I don't know, I don't know
Barbara 😃💙🎻🥁
@Digitalpenz · 5:00
And I get that it's actually a really nice picture, but would I want to own that picture? No. But someone else's perception is because we think because they think that you said something about that and how beautiful it is in the disposition of the human body and the structure around it, the metal structure, that you would actually want to hang that in your home, on your wall. I think what it is right there is people don't ask, they assume
Stacy Ward
@TheSassee · 4:06
Didn't smell strong in the candle, but once lit, it actually had my headache start up again. And I do have tension and migraine headaches, so certain smells activate that headache to start, you know what I'm saying?
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 2:43
I wouldn't change the way that I speak to people or the way that I word things just to please people. I think you are a fabulous, fabulous, funny, beautiful person, and I wouldn't change a thing
Pasju Kubert
@PasjuRelatively · 4:56
We are, in fact, unique machinery that absorbs, that absorbs, accepts, that transforms and transmutates information into responses that we then communicate based on language skills that we've learned or been given or that have been modeled for us. So not only are our apparati totally different, but then the tools that we have in which we can communicate, those are different
Pasju Kubert
@PasjuRelatively · 5:00
We use language and words that are different and sit differently in our ears, minds and hearts that we have to use to speak with someone, knowing that the response of another skin sack with its own everything will try to negate it because they are translating what we are saying into their vocabulary so that their apparatus can understand it. Now, I think that what we need to get into is the detachment from ourselves and our ownership of an object and of the concept. Read
And so I feel badly when someone has taken the effort and the time to give me something that has a strong smell, that some strong smells I'm okay with, and I can't figure out why some are not others. But there's also I feel like it's a waste. I now have this thing that I've been given that I'm not going to use and what do I do with it? You know what I mean? Anyway, it's complicated existence, I suppose
But anyway, he's describing like we're in a mountain and it's cloudy and misty at top, and then we're coming down the mountain and if you asked everybody where the cloud ended and the clear air began, everyone's going to have a different perception of what that is based on sight, feel, temperature, et cetera
But also recognizing now that when people say certain things, sometimes they say them just as an attempt to put you at ease. So that although I'm gaslighting myself, they have no way of knowing. So they're not intentionally gaslighting me to say, oh, it's just an optical illusion from their perspective. It's not humanly possible to perceive this sort of small temperature tip difference or that small visual detail or what have you, but they're not really meaning anything intentionally
Sexuality, the color of our skin, the color of hair, the color of well, we're back to color, but just about anything. And I think the categories are helpful to an extent, but there's a limitedness if we don't embrace the nuances and complexities of existence, the relative reality, as you described it, and then, like you said, into language
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 0:55
It totally makes sense. And you are right. You are right. You are right. There will always be miscommunication and there will always be perception. So what you're grateful for should really be, like you said, just their intention behind giving you a gift. And then what you do with the gift is you hold on to it for a while and you quietly regift it to someone who would like it, in my opinion. But even those without autism have issues. It's a struggle