What is the subtext for calling someone, "miss white woman"?
Okay. My autistic brain needs your help. I'm trying to interpret neurotypical speak, and I I can't make sense of this at an interaction today where someone said to me in a very condescending tone, oh, Miss White Woman. And I don't know. It's just funny just to say it out loud again. I don't know what I'm supposed to understand from that. Like, was it an attempt to, quote, quote, put me in my place?
Again, we're in an era of heightened ideologies, and unfortunately, there are a ton of people who conflict with other people with the way they handle themselves and the way they see certain groups, especially in the era of social media, where generalization is as common as breathing in and out. Somebody could have just been looking for an opportunity to talk down to you
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:33
So seeking plum I was on this well, that you're talking about, and he was not condescending in his tone at all. I'm probably going to tag him in this just because I just think because you could have tagged him in this, you could have tagged him in this and then he could have came on here and he could have told you exactly what he meant
I'm glad you got a chuckle out of it, because the first time I recorded it, I couldn't stop laughing. Every time I said, Miss White Woman, I'm sorry. It was clarified for me. He actually said Miss White Lady. And then when I said Mr. Black Man, I couldn't stop laughing. It just was so funny. But what you're saying makes a lot of sense. We hadn't interacted before. The color of my skin is white
You're right. Thank you. I misremembered. But I don't know that it makes difference whether it was Miss White Lady or Miss White Woman. And by itself, you're right. There is no positive or negative connotation to it. But when I listened to the entire message and he was laughing, and he would say, oh, Lord Jesus
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
It. So in his all he was saying is that women don't so when thinking about men and women, women don't approach men and initially talk to them, right? Women don't ask men to marry them. It's typically men who ask women to marry them. It's typically a man who will walk up to you and ask you for your number. And so he was just saying women don't do it because they don't like rejection
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 2:24
Anytime somebody who is white, it says something about a black man, I'm going to always listen to it. And if I feel like he needs to be defended, I'm going to do it. That's just me. I'm always going to do that. And if it's a man or a woman, it don't matter if I feel like they're being attacked, I'm always going to defend them
Also, thank you for sharing about the interaction between your friend when you elaborated on cultural differences, when you said that he calls you mislady and you call him my guy, that really gives some more filling in or coloring in nuances of the gentleman's reply to me on the other swell. Yeah, that gives it some different flavor to it. So thank you
Binati Sheth
@Binati_Sheth · 5:00
I'll deal with the labels that I, Harvey heard. Now, I'm an atheist, but because my family is Hindu, people call me a Hindu. Oh, you are a Hindu? Oh, you are a woman. Oh, you are in the arts. Right. These are the kind of labels that I have dealt with the most on a personal level. And anytime this label has thrown at me, it has come in the form of a disagreement
And so it's not an easy thing, and not to mention all of that. But because of the divisiveness that has come from the boxes and labels, there still needs to be like a healing before you can deconstruct some of those things. And I don't know how you get from that first place of acknowledging all that comes with the labels to a place of healing and then letting those labels go. Labels are helpful to an extent
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:28
Anyway, there was a show titled Dear White People and that was supposed to be condescending, tongue in cheek and highlighting the experiences of black and white people at private white institutions of higher learning. And in that highlight, they also shadowed just some things that black people do to self sabotage as well, just every day in general life. But nonetheless, that was meant condescending, and there was really no foundation for it
Because if you internalized or accepted everything something that somebody said and in this particular case, I do think it was condescending and dismissive. I know I was given an alternate understanding or interpretation of what happened, but realistically, I don't think that that was the case here. Friendly banter or nicknames or teasing of one another, we don't know each other
Binati Sheth
@Binati_Sheth · 4:07
Because what they want from us is that reaction of, oh, they got to us. And if we pretend that, oh, yeah, didn't get to us. As I once told you, I know this is an immature trait of mine, but it's like relish the negative energy of an interaction because I think satire is one of the best ways to invert power. You think I am a blah, blah, blah label? Sure, bring it on
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Something that you said that stood out to me was and I'm sort of paraphrasing and maybe adding to this, but was that even if something is cultural or if we want to put some other label on it, even if it is an expected behavior, language, et cetera. We do have a choice of whether we do that act, say those words, engage with other people in particular ways, et cetera