We all have struggles that we go through room. They're all difficult. And unless you can talk to someone who has suffered as well, or a professional that understands when people suffer with whatever you're dealing with, you find a counselor who can deal with what you're dealing with. You find a counselor that specializes in blank trauma, brain trauma, loss of a spouse trauma, whatever that is. You find someone that understands you or that can help you, and you go from there