And when we feel some kind of way, it's usually directed toward a negative aspect. When we say we feel some kind of way, it's typically not because we're happy. Usually when I just feel some kind of way, that person is usually referring to a negative response to something that was said or done. What is your challenge? What exactly is it that makes you vulnerable to those non conducive changes in your emotions? And it's not so much what causes us to be triggered
And recognizing also pointing out the things that are really positive about myself and sort of having this internal dialogue and repetitive dialogue of reminding myself of what is and what isn't. And it sort of creates this step back to reality, so to speak, of validating my emotions but also showing me rationally what is and what isn't
Adriane
@Royalcapability · 2:42
Because like you said, when we try to handle it to the best of our ability, it doesn't always work. But I think that's great that you start with self evaluations. That'll save a lot of non conducive situations when we self evaluate, because sometimes if we take the time to look at ourselves, whatever we're feeling, a lot of times it'll subside, because at the end of the day, it may be a trigger for something that's within us
But like you said or alluded to at the very least in then doing that process I can make changes so that next time, hopefully the trigger won't be as triggering
Adriane
@Royalcapability · 0:18
You. Yes, that definitely makes sense. To do the self evaluation after the fact. And then, like you said, next time it's less triggering. Or it may not even bother you at all because you noticed it. Thanks again for your reply
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:57
I'll never allow it to take over, so I'll never be ashamed of it. I'll always say it so that people that are around me can know that if I am not acting as though if I'm not behaving in the manner that I normally behave in, then they know, okay, are you good? Like, are you feeling depressed? Are you feeling down? Are you feeling sad? They know to ask me those questions, right?
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:45
And that may cause you to begin to react in a negative way or in a way outside of what you normally would act. Well, here's the thing. You can make the choice to say, you know what? Yes, that's something that's a sensitive subject for me. But guess what? It's not about you. It's about what's in me and that I need to heal that. So I'm not going to get upset with you
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Adriane
@Royalcapability · 2:41
And you mentioned people don't want to share because they just don't want to put it out there, but sometimes it's needed and it's necessary. I just would say pick and choose wisely so it won't come back to bite you in the b***. And there you using it for their advantage to make the situation worse because that happens as well. Thanks so much for sharing, Andrea. That was a great lesson
Adriane
@Royalcapability · 0:58
I truly admire that. And that's what I call a testimony. You talk about your struggle in how you are an overcomer because that's exactly who and what you are. Thanks so much for sharing. I really appreciate
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 1:58
As they say, healing is not linear. And so I try to be a little gentler with myself and tell myself, look, just because today looked better, and then the next day you're like, Whoa, I was so much better yesterday. How was it that today I took ten steps backwards? Doesn't mean you're not healing. But you're right. We need to stop looking in the rear view mirror. I do