And I'm like, oh, yeah, he's kind of cute, whatever. Because you can just see their face. And then I went onto his profile and, oh, he's dirty. He's open about it. He's very open. That is a dirty man. Like, into some kink. It was all about kink. And I'm like, Holy s***, bro. Do people respond to that? Do they? Can be a hookup thing
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:53
Okay, if you're challenging me to do a series on my journey to the relationship I'm in currently, I definitely raise you to the same challenge to continue what is landing as a series on you getting back into the dating scene? It is, I'm sure, entertaining your take on it because you're having fun with it, and I'm enjoying the fun that you're having with it
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:48
There's an audience for sure, but a lot of these men could care less if you are their attendant audience or not. They just spew whatever they want to put out there. And I believe there's like at least three categories of men on dating apps. I believe there's a huge category of trolls and catfishers. Nothing real about them, nothing's what they see. They're married and playing around, or they're a teenager in their mom's basement playing around on the app
Nidhin George 🔷
@geo_rhymes · 4:52
The point is, I think dating apps offer us a place where we can say anything, do anything, and get away with it without having to face the consequences. And I feel a lot of the people on these apps are either traumatized, they're frustrated, they're looking for a distraction, or they're simply clueless. And these apps offer you a place where you can be at your animalistic, raw, crude behavior and know you can get away with it. You're not answerable to anyone
Nidhin George 🔷
@geo_rhymes · 1:29
But in how do you respect the other person enough to tell them what it is so that they have the choice now to either to stay with it or leave because it doesn't suit them? And I think people who value and respect the other person's time, they are genuine souls. I think dating apps could use a lot more people like that
Because from the way that we're conditioned differently to the biology, that's different. There are so many mismatches, it's a wonder that anybody can find a partner. I mean, it really is, right? Take me with many, many grains of salt because it's been a very long time since I've dated. And so I've read articles, I've sort of observed, I've heard things from news articles to studies to social media posts and so on
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 2:30
It's not like back in the day where you needed to be married and you needed to be dating, and if you did anything outside of that, it was shamed. You were shamed for it. Now it's in a place where everybody is free to do what they want to do, and that is what they're doing with sending sexual things. Early thing
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:32
And it's up to me to decide if I am going to engage with them or not. And then if I choose to engage, then I need to do so knowing full well that this is what it's going to be. And if I choose not to, then choose not to. And then not keep this person. Let this person or their profile occupy tenancy in my brain for free
Nidhin George 🔷
@geo_rhymes · 0:30
It. Wow. That is gold. Pure gold. And I am going to take away something that you said. I really love this statement that you made. If someone or something doesn't resonate with you, just swipe left and delete it from memory rather than commit it to memory and then harp on it and keep building on it until it sort of ruins your peace of mind. I'm going to use that. I'm going to make that my motto. Thank you for that
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 1:07
See, I want to get it just so I can go and look at what everybody's saying, and I subscribe to the same s***, Mama. I subscribe to. Let me check this box. Have I done that yet? So I got that in me as well. And I totally understand where you're coming from there. I'm just when they're 20, and I know you're not supposed to put an age on it
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 0:24
Oh, my God. I hadn't even thought about people being married and just playing around on there. Oh, I cannot stomach some s*** like that. I can't stomach some s*** like that. Cheating and meeting up with women and just trying to oh, okay, now I'm super scared. But yeah, you're right. I'm sure they're going to be there. Little disgusted
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 1:42
It's just not my vibe to just be looking for it, but I'll say this and mean it from my heart. Thank you so much for being honest about when you're on there looking for a hookup because because a lot of people will lie about it or not admit that they've done it and they're just not being honest and then who are they?
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 1:34
I always, always value your two cent. But I'm curious and nosy, and you know this. So I need to ask, are you in a partnership already? Like, why are you single? Why aren't you on the dating apps? Because if I have to do it, you should have to, too. And you are 150%. Right?
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 0:05
Okay, so that was the devil side of me talking. The angel side is like, does your mama know you're doing this?
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 2:22
It wasn't just this is what I want and give it to me and can you satisfy this need? It was not that blunt, especially in the country because you know, I'm in Redneckville so it's a whole different cup of tea. It's your cousin's approaching you. I'm just kidding. That's a total joke. Swear that has never happened but I've heard of it
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 3:50
But give that boy a little bit of beer, and he loses his f****** mind. So I told him, I was like, d***, I should have wore sneakers. And he's like, what for? And I'm like, because, m***********, I'm about to run. And I got up with my high heels and did a slow walk out that b****
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:49
Oh my goodness. Now, I haven't had anyone younger than 21. That would definitely weird me out. And like you said, I know we're not supposed to think about age. The focus should be on how mature is that person. I'm sorry, though, there's not enough maturity in the world to convince me to try someone that young
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:27
I am sexually and physically attracted to you, and you are, in turn, sexually and physically attracted to me. And then we begin to vibe in that way. Let me ask for it. Let me say, hey, my text email inbox is open for any type of physical photos or videos you would like to send to me, sir, until we get to that point physically and entice me mentally, okay?
But really, if it's going to happen, it's going to have to be somebody who significantly adds to the richness that is already up my life. And so they're going to have to hit me upside the head to get my attention because I tend to be oblivious to these things and again, have to add significantly. So I don't even know what that looks like. So I'm not seeking it out. I'm content, I'm happy
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:59
And then some people may put this stuff on these ads. Sometimes it may be their face or it may not be their face, but I won't be surprised if some of them if the faces that they put up really are them because this type of behavior has become so accepted. So there's no shame in saying the things that they say. And some people, they jay like to hear that, and they welcome it
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 2:42
And no, I've done. Eleven years younger, and that was a mistake. I mean, the sex was good if that was all I was looking for. And this is back when I was mid 30s, later 30s, because they're batshit crazy and they want to hang around and they speak. And that's so f***** up that I'm saying it. But it's funny, too
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 1:00
And I'm girl, I mean, I can see that coming from a redneck. But then he wasn't even a redneck. Like, he he wasn't all like, backwoods. And he he was decent to look at. Accept that. Sometimes you gotta watch him. So them swole ones because it's false advertising. Almost forgot the the overplay this weekend. And I'm sure you're aware of this, but I'm just going to throw this out there
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 0:49
Because if you see us ladies out here, us men out here b******* about the bullshit we've been through or are going through, seems like it's much more peaceful on your side, to be honest
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 0:40
That's not going in the right direction, but totally agree with you. Can't wait to see your stuff. Love it when you post it. Love when you talk to me and you participate and have responses. So keep them coming and God bless