Ramya V
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"…I have a bunch of phrase phrase that you overuse became acutely aware of this only recently after I sort of became this regular fixture on Swell posting and frequently responding in the community. And as I'm sure everyone here does, I generally give my audio a listen before I post it to the app. And as I listen to myself more and more, it kind of struck me that I've been repeating certain phrases all through my conversations for no apparent reason.…"
"…Oh, my goodness, yes. I'll like eliminate one and a new one will pop up. I know for a while there I was using the word right all the time, and sometimes it doesn't bother me so much until it becomes like obsessive. Now it's like, you know, but I also noticed that when I'm giving an example of something I tend to do, it always in threes, and sometimes that's a little overkill and not necessary.…"
"…I can't tell you how many times I nearly deleted that previous message. I said, like, three, like, like three times in there. And then I repeated myself a few times. My goodness, I don't know if I'll ever break free of some of these habits.…"
"…So the phrase you have to understand was something that I used quite a bit because I was trying to contextualize things for my students all the time. Right. So if I'm talking about a book that was written and I want to put it in a historical context for them, I would lead with you have to understand.…"
"…Oh, my God, your replies really crack me up there. So I have this question to ask of you merely human. When you say you also have a physical gesture shell that goes along with when you say Actually, so you put your palms together. And do you also do the tilt of your head sideways and add a nod as well? I because when you kind of made that reference to a pastor doing that, I just couldn't stop laughing.…"
"…I know that's weird, right? So when I quite honestly have nothing much to say, I just throw in literally as a sort of a silver word to just fill in those awkward gaps that sometimes come up when I speak.…"
"…And there are a few others that escape me at the moment, but the one thought I wanted to get across and add to the conversation here is that these phrases that we repeat and overuse are typically transitional phrase that you overuse because we're thinking about what we're going to say because we're not comfortable with their I suggest we're not comfortable with them because we're not comfortable with silence.…"
"…When I first moved to Canada, I picked up a name, was a part of my Lexicon for the longest time, and it was really difficult to break. I did do it, so I know that I can do it with these other things, but they are definitely little of filler words.…"
"…And one phrase that always kind of struck me when I was interviewing was things of that nature. And there would always be a group of people in every interview that seemingly use that phrase every single sentence. And I realized that when you're in an interview situation, one, you're nervous. Two, you're trying to think about what to say while you're answering a question and you have to respond to that question right away as well.…"
"…Alright. Well, so you moved to Canada, and you picked up the word A. That's great. I am a Canadian. I had a business in Houston for almost three years until I sold it and I used to travel back and forth. Three weeks in Houston, three weeks home. And one of the things that gave me away people say you're Canadian, aren't you? Is I was very careful about using the word A. At least I thought I was.…"
"…Hey there seeking plum. I'm trying to figure out swell here how to reply directly to you, but I didn't manage to do that since I replied to the original thread. Hopefully you get this message. I guess I need to press the pause button before I post. To be able to tag someone.…"
"…I'm not sure when it was in the last number of years, probably the last decade or so. I've learned that silence is an auditory punctuation Mark. Silence can be used to great effect. When I was a public Speaker, I did public speaking for a number of years, and my seminars and I used silence pre frame. I attempt to Preframe what I'm about to deliver, ask a question, and then I'd be silent.…"
"…When I first came to Canada, I think I was 19 or 20, and I thought it was cool to pick up a but I've left that in the past, but I definitely picked up and used process data, and there are a few others. But that said, there are times when people here tell me I sound American. Usually that pops up when I'm tired. And then when I'm in the States, people tell me that I sound Canadian.…"
"…I was so anxious about my delivery that I scripted wrote out what I was going to talk about, and then I'd add to it that worked for me then, but doesn't work anymore. It's just a lot more work to do it that way. But speaking extemporaneously is giving yourself permission.…"
"…It's like when I grew up, I was learned to or I was taught to speak properly, and I'm always mocked because of that. But that's just the way I was raised. That's just the way I am. And again, that one word in every sentence and everybody's mode of speech. Okay, let me correct something. Not everybody.…"
"…Hey, Ramya, my picks would be absolutely so. Etc. Fantastic. You know. Right. And I'm sure there are many, many more to this list ever since will happen to me. I'm trying to work on this overuse of words and trying to challenge myself to use different words. But yes, it is a learning as we go. And as Greg mentioned, these fillers more often than not get me to the next line of thought.…"
"…Before I add on further to this conversation, I would just like to take a minute to tell you all that I initially categorized this well under the the Just for Fun category. And as I listen to all of your responses and fascinating insights that were shared here on this thread, it made me realize that this conversation had gone much deeper and taken a completely different direction than what I had assumed it to take. And that's probably what is so great about these exchanges that we have on sale.…"
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