Antionette Wiggins
@Queen11 · 1:55
Why does the first conversation you have with a male has to be sexual
You. Good morning. Good morning. I hope everyone has been doing well. It's been a while since the Queen has been on, been very busy. But I would like to know this is a question for the men but both sexes can answer and give their input. When you've been texting someone for a while and then you decide to communicate by phone for the first time, why do men feel that they have to add sexual conversation to the first communication of talking with each other?
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 4:14
And if you're of a certain age or of a certain experience and you've been through the dating market, you know, oftentimes when I think when relationships fizzle, the sex part isn't that strong either. So just in the way like a woman may be testing you for certain things because she wants to know she's not wasting her time. A man probably in a lot of cases does not want to get involved in a relationship where you can say one of a few things
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 2:10
And I think the one way to think about these sort of things is there's a lot of things where women will just say men don't seem to get it. And I think this works on both sides. This is one of those things that as I think for me, as a man who's been in single for long enough but also in a relationship for long enough, it seems obvious
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Antionette Wiggins
@Queen11 · 4:30
It's the way you carry yourself as a man and as a woman. That what makes me stay in the relationship, how we bond and how we grow together, how we fight together, how we lift each other up, how we support one another, how you care about me, how you show me you care about me. Sex, sometimes we are three second action. So no, I don't want to hear about that. The first conversation we have together. So I hope that clarified
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:49
We often hear in the dating space that it doesn't take long to know if you want to be with somebody. It don't take forever to figure this out. And so we move kind of swiftly. We kind of put things out there, and you either take it or leave it, right?
Brian Foreman
@BKFOREMAN69 · 3:23
But I think one of your other responders, it's kind of about age and expectation. Sure, if you have a relationship, you want intimacy, but if you're still running around 40 plus and you're just a horn dog and you're looking to just have sex with whoever, then, yeah, you're not trying to build a relationship. At this point in my life, I've been in a relationship now nine months, and it's a long distance relationship
Antionette Wiggins
@Queen11 · 2:03
How about have a decent conversation that draws me in with who you are, what you think, how you feel, or even if you want a relationship just because you meet somebody and go out on a date that person may not even want to date? Seriously? So, no, I don't want that conversation with you the first time you how about have a conversation, see if you can make me laugh or if what you says draws me to even want to have the next phone call with you
Antionette Wiggins
@Queen11 · 3:41
Hello, good evening, and thank you for responding. But there's a difference of talking about your love language and talking specifically about sex on the very first calm phone conversation. You never have met in person. Don't even know if we're going to be attracted to each other in person. But the first time we do have a phone conversation, it's sexual
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 4:10
And that's a very good question. Well, as a man, I can just be responsible for my answer because I only speak for this man and not every man. And it's interesting because like you mentioned, sadly, with men, there are always two parts of their body that are always at war with each other. The first one would be the brain versus what's in between their legs