How many times is too many times before you understand that maybe they don't care how they treat you. Maybe they're not in love with you as much as you think they are, or even as much as they think they are. So many times before you make a decision whether to stay in the relationship, ignore the things they're saying or doing to you, or do you just say, this relationship is not fulfilling for me?
You. Good morning, Queen. Good morning. How are you this wonderful Tuesday morning? So I listened to your mini cast. How many times is too many times? When it's when you tell me, you know, it's time to leave? I'm going to just say there's no right or wrong answer to that question because it's all subjective and dependent upon the people in that situation
Hey. Hey. Coach Brooke here. I would say there is no right or wrong answer to this, but I would say this. Once you address an issue and the person does not change or don't want to change, that is your time to go. That is a red flag for me. Do not ignore the red flags. Ignoring red flags is kind of dismissing your own feelings
But then the chances that I'm giving them took a secondary position to the time it took me to number one, realize or figure out why that person was so important, why their approval was so important. What is it going to take for me to approve of myself and where their opinion doesn't matter? Because I've always felt onto the thing where I feel like I'm a very good husband. I really did a good father to kids that didn't even want a father
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, you know? But it's going to be a long time, number one. And number two, it's going to be when they when they find out where they see you with somebody else. And that's not saying I learned my lesson. That's saying I don't want you, but I don't want nobody else to have you. And that's real. So you got to let that one go
SOUL MIND
@BEAUTIFULSOULMI · 1:49
But of course if it's a coworker or a friend in regard to respecting boundaries and things of that nature there's no love there. You can have companionship or friendship with someone you don't tolerate as many things that hurt you as you would when you are again loving someone at a higher percentage than you love yourself you. So yeah, it would be an unlimited amount of times especially if you are a people pleaser. Good question
And I was wondering to myself, if I sit here and give this man the benefit of the doubt and try to pursue something with him, he's going to take from me. He can't pour into me. There's nothing he can give me right now at this moment of his life that can help me to get stronger in my walk of life, my walk with God, anything of that matter. And you're saying this about do we ignore people treating us a certain type of way?
Antionette Wiggins
@Queen11 · 3:27
So a person that didn't care to uplift you, motivate you, love you, respect you, cherish you, woo you, they don't get a second chance. You don't get a second chance. Me, when you broke the glass, I'm not rebuilding the glass with cracks in it. I'm going to get a whole new glass. So I would say to you it lock it, don't have no conversation, don't deal with that person anymore
Yeah. Thank you for giving me that insight. The thing is, it wasn't never anything with him. He was my friend on Facebook. We went to school together in New York, and he just fell out of the he just said he stopped being on Facebook. So I haven't heard from him in a long while. And for him to just pop up and just hit me up again was a surprise
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:08
And if you've told them how you feel and they're still not trying to be cognizant or not willing to do better, then it's time to let them go. It's time to cut them off. And so, yes, thank you
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 4:54
Some people will wait till three times, some people will walk away and just in one time. Some will stay forever and they suffer. But they don't want to walk away. They still have excuses. And if they think that the situation will get better and something will change. So it's not about blaming the one who walk away quickly or the one who stays. It's just that we as a human, we have our priorities and we value things differently