Isn’t being positive all the time TOXIC too ?
Like when I'm trying to share something to my friend, telling how uncertain I'm about the future or maybe some kind of any bad thing that has happened to me that day. And instead of listening, they try to reassure them that everything is okay and everything will be okay. You are strong this and that. We all know that we have to handle that, we have no choice. But if you keep on assuring the person everything is all right and things will go well
And when a friend is telling you what a bad day she's having instead of disregarding her feelings and shutting them down with some positive nuances, do this please listen. Most of the time people just want a listening here and not a preacher. I'm just tired of people preaching, preaching, preaching, when all I want to do is just share and make them understand, yes, I'm feeling sad and please help me feel more sadder so that I can feel that emotion fully
You have all the right to live that moment, express yourself, vent out your anger. But what you cannot do is because of that negativity, you cannot allow the rest of your time to get spoiled. Okay? And that is what happens when a negative situation happens with us. We get so consumed with that thought process that we absolutely forget the world around us. So this is how this book helped me. And it speaks about being grateful about the smallest things in your life
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
So it is not that I do not believe in acknowledging to negativity or feeling negative, but I change my focus. When I look at positivity, the negativity blurs out. When you look at negativity, the positivity blurs out. You can try this simple experiment. Keep two pencils in front of you and try to focus on one of them. You will notice that the other pencil blurs out. Okay? Try doing it on the other side. You will find the first one is getting blurry
You. And, oh, by the way, I have put an ice cream on the COVID page so that you realize the value of the moment. That that ice cream will melt after some time. So while the moment remains, you need to enjoy it. Otherwise, there's no point in having molten ice cream. Right? Okay. Take care. Bye
But at times you just need somebody to listen and you really want to feel the emotion fully. Basically what I have learned in life is that I want to feel the emotion fully. So whether it's the negativity, because I have been through so many ups and downs that by now I really know that I don't have to dwell in that thing. I have been counseling people when they have been going through any challenging situation or anything
Dayakar Rapaka
@Wizdaya · 0:56
We always have to be genuine and true to ourselves. So, yes, sometimes it's good to stay positive, but trying to be positive all the time, very dangerous. So thank you. Thank you for sharing this here. Bye
preethy uthup
@peeli · 3:39
So there is a thin line, I would say, to be open and listen carefully and understand and ask relevant questions as to why they feel about it and why is it so or what made you think so. All these questions can be very relevant and those are things which are from an empathetic person as such
Surya V
@welcome28 · 2:54
Hello. Pragati incidentally the very same discussion have came between me and my friend yesterday. My friend somehow felt that everybody are judging when trying to confess to people. So he came to me somehow realizing that I sit like a rock and I listen to people and somehow people need somebody to listen, no? So he confessed everything seriously and he is leaving. Before leaving I just stopped him. I said to him not to offend you or not to offend anybody, but I have a plan
That that is what people are looking for who can just listen to them without judgment. And the reason I made this topic was that the experience I had in the morning was not good. Because when people come to me, they share their pain, they share their challenges and I counsel them, I listen to them fully. I try and absorb as much as I can because it's their words, it's their voice that speaks the pain they are going through
Jerome Dees Jr
@SpeakerDees · 2:56
And rather than waiting for the next bad thing to happen or hyper focusing on the negatives, you have to acknowledge those. You have to work through those feelings, because your feelings are valid. What you're going through is valid. We all have tough days, we all have tough seasons. But overall, on the whole, I choose I focus on the things I can control the positive in life. Having appreciation over expectation
Rohan RR
@SpecialMission · 1:50
It's something like a toxic ex that people want to go back to, even though it is negative. So there are some negative things that you are trying to overcome, but once you overcome it completely, my advice would be do not try to miss the negative feelings that you had before. Just jump onto the positive ones and look at life in a completely different light, and the positiveness would increase at rapid speed when you go there. So, yeah, that's what I wanted to say
But sometimes it's very important to open up our heart and understand that, okay, it's not right, I have to accept it. So until or unless you accept the things as it is, you can't actually reduce your pain. Instead of doing that, we are simply covering, trying to mask or trying to cover the pain with one or the other statement and turning it to be a positive one and claiming it to be the positivity, which is not absolutely. So people say be positive