What would you do or say…
Her life is in stress, with her traveling back to the country to tend to her terminally ill father and being torn between the sense of duty as a dutiful, loving daughter and being a strong parent to her kids. The kids cannot adapt to her country as they were born to the culture of the country where she resides and she does sense that they will not be comfortable to move. Her husband will never agree to the custody of the kids
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 1:13
And since the kids are in the teens, you know, they would not even be able to decide as to what they really want in life. And things are definitely not looking up, and they're not easy. So I just wish her all the best, and may God guide her to take the best decision. Take care. Bye
People are a little bit conscious about suggesting their thoughts. What if that is not accepted or if it doesn't come out the right way? But I appreciate your taking time out to listen to this and also sharing your voice words. So thank you
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 3:14
Hi, Sarita. This definitely sounds like a really tough situation for anyone, honestly, and especially when the fact that your friend is not in her home country and she's contemplating moving when this fact is involved, it makes things a lot more harder, I believe. And like, she also rightly pointed out and realized that she can't completely uproot the kids from there, from the country where they were born and the culture they were exposed to since birth and the life they have there
Hi Aishani. I really, really appreciate your kind heart and the fact that you really thought deep about the situation and you really spoke well. You know, there's nothing that anyone or everyone can suggest or think of because ultimately the decision will have to be made by the people involved. And I can really, really sense that, you know, everyone is very uncomfortable with this scenario because it's a part of life, it's a fact of life
Mukesh Dugar
@Mukesh_the_bull · 1:15
Hi Sarita. I'm really sorry but I won't be able to sugarcoat my thoughts. I think we all try to make things right for everybody and all but at some stage the time comes when we to call it a day and move on. I think it is important for us to understand that the person need to be happy in himself or herself before he or she can make anybody else happy. If the person himself or herself is not happy, nobody around her can be happy
Hi Mukesh Ji, thank you so much for taking time out, first of all to listen to the story and also for really genuinely sharing your thoughts and not sugar coating it. Because the need of the r is that, you know the thing, the issue needs to be addressed for what it is on face. I only broadcasted it on the platform because she actually wanted to see how my swell audience would react to a scenario if I told her story
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 1:31
Yes, that's really true, Sarita, that it's very difficult for anyone to advise in such a difficult and a very complicated situation like this one because, you know, we don't know the exact situation. We don't know the kind of resilience the person has. We don't know what all the person has gone through and how much the person can take. And, you know, what is the capacity to keep fighting through challenges and the capacity to make a decision?
javon johnson
@motoblanco · 1:52
But I was thinking to myself, I wonder maybe a solution is if your friend, if she thinks it's best to return to India to take care of her parents in the meantime, but eventually work with her husband to, you know, have her parents and herself immigrate to the new country eventually so that she can be together with her children and her parents all together in the same place in this new country. You know, it's just a thought
I actually googled up how to pronounce your name. And just an interesting fact that we have a word in Hindi, which is our national language. In India, jawan means youth. So just a good, interesting fact to share. You take care of
And it started, you know, we became aware of it and it started having an effect on us as well. And, you know, by the time we were, you know, teenagers, it was very, very apparent that our mother was putting up with my father and all the, you know, mental abuse for the sake of us, you know, so the. Because she was afraid that he wouldn't pay for our education
I'm sure that they are amazing, wonderful people who are capable of expressing their thoughts in this thoughts in this whole process and come together as a family and make these decisions together rather than one person shouldering that weight. I don't think. I really wouldn't what to say. I wouldn't do that now. I wish when I went back in time, you know, I wish my mom had just said, okay, okay, guys, let's do this together
Because seeing your parents suffer or seeing the scenario around you being so toxic kind of makes you realize that, yes, this is the environment I don't want to be in, and you would consciously make that effort. So God forbid, should you be in a similar environment, at least you would know what to do, or at least you would know how to find venues, because now we have more channels of communication to express
Hi. When actually you were explaining the situation, I couldn't control myself because it is such a tough situation and I really feel like advising something and I don't even think that I'm in any position to advise something, but what all I can do from my end is just pray for her and pray that she will find solution and God will guide her and God will support her in every path. So that is something I can do from my end
But you're right, God does support in many ways that we don't even imagine. And I really will convey your prayers to her saying that everybody is praying for things to get better soon for her. I do believe that God has provided ways and means in his own ways to kind of support her so that she's able to go and meet her parents, parent parents off and on and try her best
Meet each other as if they met for the first time. Go on a date, just one single date. And let them forget everything. There's also something called karmic cleaning or something. Don't know the entire name for it. Some kind of karmic cleansing. But I don't know about that, if that could help. Definitely. Else, you know, going on the first date again, trying to get to know each other, probably they've evolved each other
Hi Deepak, thank you so much for listening to that podcast and for taking the courage to share your thoughts, and it's a very nice, fresh perspective. To be quite honest, it's an uncomfortable situation to talk about, but my friend wanted to see how people perceive the situation, and you have definitely suggested a very nice, fresh approach. I hope she does heed to your advice, and I hope they make that effort, but then that's up to them