Hey, everyone. This is actually a different kind of swell than I usually do. Have you ever felt like you weren't ever good enough? Anything that you did might have seemed second best or just not enough to satisfy your parents or whoever it was that you were trying to impress or that you wanted acknowledgement from? So many of us go through this phase wherein we feel so dejected all the time, because anything you do is never looked at with appreciation or acknowledgement
Taha Abbas
@taha_oracle · 5:00
Hi, Sharp. That was a great spell cast. I just wanted to say that all our lives we are under unconsciously pleasing our parents. We may not realize it, but somewhere we are trying to prove something. And it may not be true for some people, but that's what I believe. Theoretically speaking, I think that we are program like that
Esha Prakash
@Paradox_Knight · 3:50
That is what I've noticed as well around me. I do relate to this personally as well. There's a lot that goes on when it comes to primary caregivers not being there for the child in the way that they should. It does not form a secure attachment style. The person feels neglected, they don't feel important. And that definitely shapes the person in a way that's not very healthy mentally and sometimes physically as well
Taha Abbas
@taha_oracle · 5:00
Yeah, absolutely. And I was just wondering that every child has its own DNA framework, you know, that they are born with and the codependent traits and habits like Kumb sucking or bed wetting or addictive behavior, all these things. One can actually predict that. If we see that in the DNA of the fetus or the baby, one can determine what they might face, the probability of their personality being such and such
And it's sometimes, even after putting 100% of efforts, giving our best, we still don't get any kind of appreciation or acknowledgement for the thing that we have done. Sometimes, even though we do something, people still try to make us perfect. Or they tell that more and more perfectionism need to be shown in that particular area. So this has actually a lot of impact on us right from the childhood
Esha Prakash
@Paradox_Knight · 4:01
I completely agree with the DNA aspect of it. This actually brings forward the very famous debate that's there between nature and nurture, nature versus nurture, which essentially just translates to whether a person entire set of characteristics or personality is formed due to DNA or their experiences and their environments. So actually, to test this, they've done multiple experiments. So, like you mentioned, the first one was to see two siblings growing up in the same household
Esha Prakash
@Paradox_Knight · 0:47
Absolutely. I completely agree with you. It's about encouraging and acknowledging the child so that they don't feel like, you know, they have to work really hard to get your appreciation and get your attention. And it shouldn't be like, okay, if you do this, then I will love you