It might not necessarily heal your grief and trauma if that situation has caused you trauma. So what I did, because for me, this situation still affects me a lot. It still causes me a lot of grief. It was a traumatic experience for me. I started going to therapy myself and that has been helping me
Taha Abbas
@taha_oracle · 5:00
But eventually I had to move on with my life. And maybe it had affected me more if he was with me for a long time. But anything, anybody you are attached to can losing them can affect you. And it's a strange thing. What I was about to say was that the thing that the event that affected me most was back in 2015 when I started going to a therapist and there was this amazing connection I had with this person
Esha Prakash
@Paradox_Knight · 4:47
And years later I realized that apparently some people play this scam where they pose as trainers and they train the dog to become sort of violent and then they have a tie up with someone and they sort of suggest that we give the dog to that person and then ultimately they just gain a good dog and they make some sort of money off of it or something. I don't know. Because while we did our research, we couldn't have known that this is a huge scam that some people play
Taha Abbas
@taha_oracle · 5:00
Because one is constantly creating something to cope with their pain, to escape or through some sort of new identity or some addiction or whatever. And we are not actually growing up, right? I'm really new to this, so please bear with me. What I wanted to actually talk about was that he mentions that we are very malleable creatures and our mind is really fertile, especially when we are children and when you're growing up and all sorts of experiences are shaping us at an unconscious level
Taha Abbas
@taha_oracle · 5:00
Because when you reach at this age and you're stuck and it's like all the spirituality goes right out of the window and it's like you can create all you want but if it's not helping you in the long run, you start feeling really weird. I'm not saying everybody may feel like that, but I'm sure many people can relate to what I'm saying. Being in your mid thirty s, living with your parents
Esha Prakash
@Paradox_Knight · 4:44
Narrative therapy. It's excellent. Something I'm working on as well. But yes, even just it gives you a lot of perspective that when you have trauma you might get hyper focused on that trauma. This gives you perspective that okay, your trauma might be one aspect of it, but there are other aspects. Say you have a good social life, you have good social support or else you are doing really good at work or you might have a great family
Taha Abbas
@taha_oracle · 4:42
Hi Esha. Thank you so much for your kind words. And you know, the way you explain narrative therapy, it sounds really interesting and I'm looking forward to learning more about it. But yeah, it is a very unique approach to change your narrative and we don't even realize we are doing it. It's happening all the time. It probably gets recorded at a very early age and then it keeps on playing on repeat
Esha Prakash
@Paradox_Knight · 4:49
So you ask them to go into a lot of detail and you dissect each disagreement, each fight, whatever she remembers. And then you pick out what might have triggered her, what might have affected her, what might have caused this trauma build up over the years or months or whatever. And then it can make sense to look at the breakdown that the person might have had, or the person if they sort of just had an outburst, then what might have caused it?
Taha Abbas
@taha_oracle · 4:07
Yeah. I agree with how the psychologists or therapists handle it through narrative therapy they are trying to restructure the mind mind by changing the story yet they are keeping the reality check intact and I feel that if there is an addict addicts are suffering from the result of childhood trauma even if they have experienced trauma at a later stage that trauma was also the result of the trigger the experience of something that happened in the childhood this is something I read or listened to there's a famous psychologist called Gabe
Esha Prakash
@Paradox_Knight · 2:06
Hi Taha. That is a great analogy and true. I completely agree that therapy is essentially a commitment. It takes time and it takes effort. It takes a lot of energy and you come out better at the end because humans are complex and they are like an onion. They have a lot of layers and you have to keep peeling through the layers and uncovering more and more about their own swell
Manjot Kaur
@manjotkaur3 · 1:00
And the only way I feel I can cope up is by I don't know. There are certain kinds of fishers who need to swim all the time as they'll sink and die. I think I've become that kind of a fish. I need to keep fighting every day. I need to stay top on everything. I need to just keep myself super busy else I drown. I feel like I'm drowning all the time
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Esha Prakash
@Paradox_Knight · 2:05
Because when we are not giving our emotions the importance and the acknowledgement that they need, they have to show themselves in one way or the other. So they might manifest themselves as back aches or headaches or something like that, which you rightly pointed out. I would suggest if you're comfortable with it and if you're open to the idea, and if you've not done it before, then I would highly recommend therapy. I think everybody should get therapy if they need