Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:29
Interview #10 Ditane
Okay, well, you know what? I have another question. Is there anything in the past that deterred you from getting married? Well, it's not anything specific. It's marriage in general. And I understand what marriage is. Some people don't understand what marriage is. I understand that marriage is a commitment. It's a commitment that can change a life, and it can also harm a life. Right. And it's not something you take lightly
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 2:07
Hi, mo. Hi. I believe it was ditain. If I said that incorrectly, please forgive me. So you said that in order for you to get married, a woman would have to have a ten year plan. And I understand that she needs to know where she's going. Right. But if she makes a plan as a single woman, wouldn't her plan be different if she got into a marriage with you? Wouldn't those plans have to change?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:58
And so, with that being said, I don't understand why I need to come in with a ten year plan when you're the leader and you're the one carrying the vision in. So I'm following you. And if I'm following you, if you have the vision, then that's the vision that we are following. As a woman being submitted to her husband, I'm submitted to his vision as well, and his mission. So thank you so much. This was great
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:12
I will tell you as a divorced woman, because he talked about longevity and being with somebody for a little bit before marriage, I actually was with the kid's dad for five years before we got married. I met him in college. I was his sister's best friend. We knew each other very well. It's just that later on down the line, I realized that he could not love me like I needed to. And we're better off as friends. We're actually really good friends
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 2:52
Everything I'm about to say to you right now, I mean, with total disrepute, with respect, I don't mean any disrespect, but I'm the type of individual that I say what's on my mind, and I try to keep it real as possible. Now, as far as my relationships or the reason that I have not gotten married has nothing to do with being hurt, being rejected, or going through something
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 2:32
The question that you asked, as far as a woman having a plan and getting with him and he has a plan, shouldn't you mentioned something about shouldn't the woman's plan change? And he said, no, not at all. Emphatically not. He encouraged the woman to continue to plan and not that, because it doesn't mean that his plan and her plan will cause them to go separate ways. He spoke strongly about women's independence
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 2:41
Not that individual visions and plans would cause you all to go separate ways. No. But it's more like, I guess, a just in case thing. He feels as though that women should continue to stand on her own 2ft even in marriage, and not that she's not on her own 2ft if she's following a man. But I guess that's his way of seeing things, that she should maintain some degree of independence
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
And I'll be honest with you, unless he is planning on living with a woman, unless he's planning on living with her, and unless she's a younger woman, I don't know too many women my age that's willing to date a man for five years before he decides whether or not he wants to marry them. I just don't. And I'm going to be honest, I'm not waiting five years
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:40
It was me growing up with my mom and dad and seeing what I didn't want. And I know in my relationship I aim to not have that. There are some good aspects of their relationship, like the way that my dad loved my mom and made her a priority. But my mom was mean. And then they argued all the time because it was belittling relationship at first it was not. But it got like that, and I don't want that
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 0:41
And we want to be right in so many ways. But it's okay not to be right. It's okay to live and learn. We have to learn from the people that we love. And I want to thank him also for responding. I think I said that already, but I want to say it again. Thanks again. A wonderful post, as always