Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 3:52
Moe Interviews ‘Single Men on Marriage’
You okay? So while I've been on swell, I've heard a lot of women that I believe are good women say that they're single. Why? I do not know. These women have many boxes checked. They're successful, they're accomplished, they're good looking, they're independent. Some have their own homes, some have their own automobiles and some own businesses. Some are authors. They're all very intelligent and smart. So I don't get it
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:01
Were you not interested in marriage before, earlier in life, and now you are? Now you see how it could possibly be benefit you. What has changed over the course of the year? So I think most of the guys were in their 40s, maybe 50, but middle aged, you, versus 20 year old, you, what kind of woman is he looking for that's different than what he wanted when he was younger
dee felton
@MrDee · 4:01
We don't want them, or who we want don't want us. I think it's as simple as that. There are many compatibility or incompatibilities that can be worked out, negotiated, or it's like the fantasy of having everything lined up, matching. Oh, they like red, I like red. They like to do this. I like to do this. I like to eat this type of food. They like to eat that food
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
And a lot of times that respect is getting in the way of developing relationships, because in a relationship, as I see it, there needs to be a certain amount of equality between the two partners, no matter who you are. And I do have that. A lot of times I have women. I've dated women, rather, who have maybe presented that Persona at the beginning, but then as time grew on, that Persona was replaced by their true self
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:15
And most people are like, oh, I'm not getting married to live separately. I'm not having two households. Fine, I fully understand that. But for some people, especially if you've been single a while, you're used to your own space. Little things like that can really make it hard to be married
So that was the fifth attempt. I'm going to listen to the rest of your reply to me, but I just wanted to make sure that you heard that right away. I knew I was getting in trouble when I said the fifth. Anyway, I'll be right back. Bye
I mean, I'm pretty much an open book. I thought that was interesting that you said something about the looks portion of it. And obviously maybe you'll reply to this, and I understand what you're saying in terms of how you were wanting to find somebody, and maybe you were speaking from the mind of a younger person when that you said, looks are really important because you want your kids to turn out the way they do
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 0:20
Okay. Thanks, Simon. I totally was off base with the five times, and now it makes sense. Yes, your fifth attempt at recording a reply makes sense. Either way. Like I said, no judgment was just questioning
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:16
And although I'm not a confrontational person, it'd be nice to have no arguments, no disagreements, or at the very least, the least is possible. But I don't know, I don't know how long you've been married, brother. I don't know if this is your first marriage. I'm glad to hear that you are married, and I hope things are going well. And I wish you the best, you and your wife. You and your spouse, rather
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
And I say that because men, and I'm speaking in general, how we are, we don't like to admit certain things. We have this bravado. We like to always feel that we have things under control and that we're fearless and we don't have any weaknesses. We like to carry ourselves a certain way. So the fact that you said, when it comes to relationships, generally speaking, we like to feel that we have that particular thing in check
I mean, I've been affected by that with a few women that I've dated over the years. But you know what, though, mo? It really didn't sit well with me. I mean, I kind of lost respect for them when I had to treat them with a lack of respect. And that's why for me, it was heading into a toxic relationship because it wasn't natural to me. Again, it's almost like a double edged sword
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:31
Hey, mo, I think this was a great idea to do the interview or whatever on different single men to see what their perspectives are, why they're not married, why they choose to remain unmarried, or why they haven't inquired into marriage, because there are a lot of different variations of that. And I like some of the people's answers that have answered thus far. I didn't want to really speak on it
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:42
And so if they have a really bad habit or they're really disrespectful, anything like that, just know you're seeing the absolute best during the dating stage. And once you get married, it's not go downhill. I'm not talking against marriage, but people get real comfortable. Right
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:56
But I am going to speak for me as far as why I'm single with a lot of the boxes checked, as you may say, is because I just know what I want and I give opportunity. But at the same time, and I'm not a very choosy person, I just want someone who's consistent, someone who's honest, faithful, and who has some kind of goals in life
And so because I'm a communicator, I mean, I feel comfortable talking with people and listening to them and kind of reading between the lines sometimes. But as far as dating is, I mean, mo touched on a great topic, and I see other people that I'm associated with here in swell delving into this topic as well
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:19
Because if you're just looking at a woman who is not necessarily standing beside a man or is not wearing a wedding ring, it could also mean that this woman is still coupled with someone just not married or should be married and is not wearing a ring. Like there's so many possibilities versus looking at it surface level. Those are a few suggestions, not that you asked for any
Kwa NateKo
@kwa · 4:37
If you're decent parents, then the relationship begins to suffer, and it doesn't show a good example to the kids. As an example, marriage should really be about prioritizing the relationship above all else. I think it is more important than marriage and the marriage itself, because a healthy relationship makes for a good situation. I'm not going to say regardless of the marital status, but whereas you can have a marriage on paper, but a horrible relationship and nobody really benefits
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
I actually listened to it a couple of times, brother, and that was really good. So it's just so much to learn about all of these women and women that I don't even know. And men. Sometimes we don't know what we want, just like women don't know what they want. And when we get what we think we want, it turns out to be that that's not enough, or we're looking for something else, or it's too much
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:34
I asked the question, why are we attracted to people who are not attracted to us? And on this particular swell, it was all men who responded, because men do have a tendency to be attracted to women who just really aren't attracted to that type of man. I saw a podcast one time, and there was a guy on there who said he had a very specific type of woman that he was attracted to. So they brought his type onto the podcast platform
It's just, I just don't feel that attraction to you. And I said, you know what? I respect you for that. Thank you so much for being honest. Maybe that's a trait that I found very attractive about you. She was flattered. Didn't change anything, of course, but at least I found out some things that I needed to know and it brought me some peace. So nowadays I'm just like, okay, that's cool
