Just about every other hurt, especially if it if it rings true the same way, especially if it triggers something in you. And then you not only have to work through what you're going through, but you also have to go through back and settle that down in your heart and say, this is not that situation. I can't put this off on them. This is not them
And there's a difference between now and then because, like you say, teach people how to treat you, and then I didn't do that. I didn't have boundaries, and I didn't have a voice to do that, to teach people what my boundaries are or how to treat me. And I most definitely do now
Natasha Webb
@NatashaNoel · 4:54
I do not mean that in times where you are an innocent child or an innocent woman or man or anything where you have not asked for abuse, when you have not asked to be raped or hurt. That is not our fault or our responsibility. We're not at fault. And you sometimes can't get out of situations. But what I meant by that was you do learn and you teach people how to treat you in new relationships and new as you walk forward in life
Natasha Webb
@NatashaNoel · 3:51
Here I go again. I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you so much for being so open and honest. And I'm so sorry that your mother did you that way. I'm so sorry that you experienced that belittling or I don't even know what the word is when a parent does that as if you were lying or as if it wasn't important. Oh, my God, I'm so sorry that you experienced that. My heart goes out to you for that
You're. Hey, I really appreciate you sharing your story also, because I recorded that reply and I wasn't sure if I was going to actually post it, and so I had to think a little bit, and I was like, you know what? It's my story, right? And so I'm glad that you were able to resonate with that and also share your story, and I congratulate you for being able to do that
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 4:34
Hey sister, you know, I got to pipe up on this one. The thing is, any trauma is going to affect you and your reaction to other things, right? Especially childhood trauma. But any trauma, childhood trauma happens at a time in your life when your brain is developing and you are learning or being programmed. We're always programmed by society and family and whatever else
Natasha Webb
@NatashaNoel · 0:30
It's. Thank you so much again, I appreciate your compliments and your words. I really do. And I probably would give you a longer response except for the fact that it's 358 in the morning and I'm up just listening to this, believe it or not. Anyway, thanks again. I appreciate it. I hope you have a great day today and look forward to hearing more from you and seeing your stuff. Take care. Bye
Natasha Webb
@NatashaNoel · 4:20
I mean h***, abused as a child himself and just been through h***. And I understand some because I've had my own set of things that happened but he has been through more than anybody I've ever seen and he's so loving and caring and yet I still fear that he might break my heart
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 4:51
My thing that I feel driven to say to you, though, and and it's not meant bad in any way, but it's for you to open up to the idea and look at your fear. Right? So if he left, it is not the end of all, and it's not if he were to leave, it would be to make space for whatever you require in your journey next. Right?
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 5:00
And what I say to myself is what I'm going to offer you, and I know you already know this is to be patient with yourself, to love on yourself during this time, whatever that looks like for you, because it looks differently for everyone. Give that to yourself. At a moment this morning where hearing I work at the hospital my father died at, he was airlifted. So that tells you the criticality of his condition after his accident
Renee Slay
@Renee_Slay · 2:34
And you don't have to hide this thing, because this thing is not your shame to bear. This thing that happened to you will eventually be your power. Because there is power in using what has happened to us to help others. And you will. You absolutely will. Beyond proud of you. Beyond touched. Can even say that I love you. From your one small moment. I am sending so much love your way