I'm really not an investment person, you know, I don't really invest, you know that I'm really tight on my budget, I live alone and there's a lot on my plate already. I feel some sort of explanation always helps and blatant assertiveness or blatantly saying no to something, especially when the person at the receiving end is your good friend, can be really selfish of you. So that was my Ted Talk for today
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 3:36
She could have told you that this is not something I really want to get in right now. Or maybe, yeah, I can give it a thought, but I don't think that you should really count me in, because I'm not sure if I'll be able to invest in something right now. I mean, there are 1001 different ways in which she could have handled the situation, but she chose to make it really awkward for you
narjis gul
@Narjis · 0:50
While I also feel that these things can happen in friendships, I feel it's important to make sure that it doesn't happen regularly. And then there's one person who's always trying to understand, and the other person is always just being themselves, which is just kind of rude
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:27
I see nothing wrong with what she did at all. And the thing is, as much as we may can expect a certain reaction, or sometimes we expect people to respond to things the way we would respond to something. Because you mentioned I expected her to have some type of explanation or just to be nicer about her declining your proposition. But I don't see where she was rude. She just said, no, she was not interested. And yeah, I could see that
Sreeja V
@Wordsmith · 1:18
They like to draw a clear boundary, perhaps because of past experiences where a friendship might have sared because of this. Right. So there are various thoughts that come to mind. Anyway, thanks for inviting me to this conversation
narjis gul
@Narjis · 1:28
Hi. I'm so happy that I joined this app, and I actually got to learn a lot through my first post itself. I think this thing I never really talked to anyone about, not even my other friends, because I feel that's wrong. And so when I talked about this as somebody to people who did not know me without any context, they did tell me a lot, and they did teach a lot to me as well