But then when you come out of that space and you're in your own personal space, you realize, you know what? I am by myself in this world and I don't really know why. You wonder, why are you by yourself in this world? If you do know a lot of people. How do we make those relationships move past the shared space into the personal space? Do you do the inviting, or do you wait to be invited?
Swati Sharma
@Swatiselflove · 3:46
Hi Tanya, that was a very interesting question that you have put up. But what I personally believe is that nobody actually wants to be a loner by choice
Tori Closson
@soleilnoelle · 2:52
That's probably the only real exposure that I've had to someone like that. And it was very strange for me. Part of the reason why we are no longer together probably has something to do with that. It was a strain, big time strain, in the development of that relationship. I found with him that even something as simple as introducing family or introducing close friends or anything like that, there was a struggle there and I just knew that that wouldn't work for me a long time
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 3:46
So a lot of people are like, hey, you're the Phoenix Personnel lady, right, or, you're the recruiter lady, right? So a lot of people know of me, but not a lot of people know me, right? So they don't know who I am on the inside. They just know what I do or who I'm related to or what church I go to. And so I'm a popular loner. I am
So sometimes I'll be up at three or four in the morning because nobody's calling me at three or four in the morning, not because I can't get to sleep, because it's very peaceful to me, you know what I mean? And they say the earlier you get up with the angels so I'm already up and I may nap or whatever, or I may just, you know, just go to sleep. It all depends. But I'm grateful for what I have
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:19
I personally have seen situations where my friends are doing fun things with other people and they never invite me to be a part of it. And so it could be a matter of even though we have work in common, maybe we have some lifestyle differences. Maybe you engage in certain things that I don't participate in, such as alcohol or maybe going to nightclubs or something of that nature. Maybe that's something that I don't do, but that's something you do
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:05
And so they just don't invite me to stuff. My thing is, what about the middle ground? Why can't we do something fun that doesn't require drinking? Like, why can't we go to a paint night? Why can't we go to a movie? Why can't we go out to eat? I mean, why can't we do something that don't require drinking?