Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 7:34

Does "The Wall" really exist?

You know, you don't hear married men talking about their wives hitting a wall, and she's no longer as beautiful as she was when I married her 20 years ago. You don't hear that. It's usually men who are single and frustrated with being single, frustrated with seeing women be independent into their thirties and not really taking these things into consideration. And so they come up with this thing

#aging #life #women #pregnancy #love #children

Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:57

I’m convinced that some men simply hate women!

Hey, Tanya. Good morning. So, yeah, like you said, everybody's gonna get older. Either you get old or you die, and nobody's dating or getting married when they're dead. So the only alternative is older people are going to be found attractive, older people are going to be dating, and they are going to get married. The wall is definitely a derogatory term. I mean, what happens biologically when women get older?
Darrain …
@TheBriefOne · 3:49
He did live in the middle of nowhere, though, and he was in a place where people probably didn't want to date him relative to who he was, his culture. But he had a home to go home to, and, you know, most definitely. And he was currently way more successful than me. He was four years younger than me and was about to be tenured at a college at the same time. I know a couple of military brats who get laid every time they
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 4:59
She can put that money and work into herself and dream Michelle again, she's a good looking woman, but I think in her circumstance, it's not so much that people want to be with her. Someone was willing to have sex with her, and they got trapped. I often look at older women having sex with these younger guys as a form of manipulation, because if the genders were reversed, we would easily think of it as predatory behavior
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 3:53
It's like, yeah, like if, if, if the idea is that we're telling single men without kids to stay away from single moms, I completely get it. It's too much of a burden for people. If you decide to take on that burden, then that's your choice. But if I had a son, I would tell them to stay, leave. Even my mom would tell me to stay away from single moms
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 3:55

@DearAuntyAng

And again, this isn't to diminish people. I think you can find happiness, you can find love, you can find all these things. But we're not being honest to the full context. It's not like you can't find anybody. I think women are in a great position. I think there's more men who desire women than women who desire men. And for you to find someone to be with is very easy for a woman
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:10
And if they did ask, I would just tell them, yes, I can have children, but I choose not to right now in my life, you know? But if I chose to have one, which I have been there, then I would have one. But, you know, I don't want any. And then. But like I said, I don't. I don't, you know, you talked about Kim Kardashian and Drea. Those people are famous people
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

Welcome to Swell!

Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:13

@MK1981

This is what, 3rd, 4th? Maybe she already has children. So she's not looking to. She may be looking to get married, but she's not looking to like start a family, quote unquote. I gave examples of my aunt and other women who already lost their husband who are still very vibrant in their old age and still getting attention
Robert Jenkins
@Guruball1 · 4:32
I've been around women for different reasons. Some women you want to be around because you love their mind, you love to speak to them, you love to talk to them, you love their education, there's fun around them, and then there's other women that you just want to have sex with. You don't particularly want to talk to her about anything because she's not mentally where you are or where you feel you may be. So you don't even want to talk to her
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:53

@chitchatwithkk

Now, I don't want what the 22 year old woman wants, and the man that wants her doesn't want me. And we all good. But in my lane, oh, the brothers are there. So I love what you said, and I agree. It's like, I don't see that in a real world. I see people with hips, dips and bellies getting married. Men are getting married with bare bellies. Women get married with, you know, plus size
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:59

@DearAuntyAng

It's always coming from single men who too feel like they're probably hitting a wall of sorts, even though they might still be fertile and maybe they still have time to reach their earning potential and what have you still, I don't know of any men who want to become first time fathers in their forties and fifties. It happens. But is that ideal for a man? It's not ideal for a man just because he can. Doesn't mean he necessarily wants to, Howard
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:48

@DearAuntyAng

For the next 20 years of my life, I'm gonna devote myself to growing financially and growing in my career and building up my finances and what have you. And then when I get 40, 45, I'll think about marriage. It's like, no, you look at all these NBA. Not NBA necessarily. I don't really follow NBA, but NFL stars. These young men are getting married in their early and mid twenties
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:03

@TheBriefOne

I also agree with your point when you were mentioning how you got some trash people out there in the world that still find relationships. That is true. You got some folks who don't bring nothing to nobody's table as far as a relationship, but yet they still keep pulling folks. They still keep pulling folks. Case in point, I've got some male cousins on my dad's side of the family who are this way. These dudes don't have no car. They don't drive
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:53

@MK1981

Hey, Michael, thank you so much for your responses. I will agree. Yes. I don't say that Kim Kardashian and Drea Michelle and all these women are the norm. They're obviously not the average girl next door type women. They're not the women that you see at Walmart that you see at the mall. No, they're not the people you see at church and all that stuff. They're not those women
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:03

@MK1981

So, yeah, as far as younger women being attracted to older men, it would really just depend on a lot of things. Typically, in society in general, most people want to date within their age range. The idea that young women are just chasing after older men, that's not really true. If you go to a 20 something year old woman, more than likely she's going to marry a 20 something year old man, because that's who she's around now. Yes
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:28

@chitchatwithkk

But I think because they're seeing more women who seem to be happy and content being single because they're traveling, they're fulfilling their life goals and dreams, and they seem to be content in that state. I think that's what's frustrating men, because I believe that women do better with being single than men do. We're okay. I've always been the kind of woman that's okay with going, you know, periods of time without dating
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:40

@Guruball1

But yet we see them following and lusting after women on IG that have bbls, fake breasts, super tiny waists, all this stuff, and then yet they're saying, no, I don't want my woman to have any of that stuff. It doesn't make sense. But because you guys see the women on IG as sexual attraction, and you see the women in real life as potential relationship attraction, it makes sense from that vantage point
Michael Knight
@MK1981 · 4:32

@MsColes77

They're not chasing down a guy who's still working at, at a supermarket or working as a waiter or any of these things. We're specifically talking about men who have really good professions and are at the peak of their earning potential. So when we talk about men getting better with age is like, he can afford more. He can now afford, you know, the high end suits, nice cars, the bigger houses

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