Then when you get out of college, you work on building your career, starting your career, and then somewhere down the road, get married and have a family. And one thing I've noticed is that this is leading to women going into their 30s single. And as you get older, the dating pool starts to shrink a bit. In your 20s, everybody is still kind of in that same season of life regarding singleness, and people are starting to get married
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:52
Now, my oldest daughter is married, but even before she was married, I didn't let her say that because there are things that we do need a man for. Right? We were created to be a helper to a man. We were created to want a man and to need a man. And a man was man has a natural desire and want and need for us. So I don't like when women say that because it's just not true
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:34
It's a hindrance. Having a husband and having children just coles you back. It keeps you from really experiencing life. It keeps you from experiencing so many things. It makes you believe you're missing out on so much. And so now we're trying to tell our daughters, no, you don't want to go that route. Live your life. Why are we making mothers and wives feel as though they are missing out?
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:33
So you're out with the hookah and you're posting about getting drunk last night and you're in the car twerking and playing videos of all the rap songs. What man is saying, oh, yeah, let me go wife her up. And then you're always with the girl's friends. So it's just very disheartening. My eldest child is 26, almost 27, and he was engaged, actually, to a girl that he went to high school with
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:28
And the part that he really plays in your life and they realize it's not so green you won't have time to shop if you have to hold down two or three jobs in order to maintain a household. So I think maybe they thought the grass was greener, and it isn't, if you ask me. It ain't. So I'll say that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:24
At least I have somebody that can walk with me when things get difficult. But having to do that alone or having to rely on your friends because your friends are going to eventually get married when you're in your twenty s I don't know if you said this or someone said this, but your friends are your support system because everybody's typically single or they're married and they don't have kids. So pretty much still free
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:52
We saw our mothers do that. We don't want our daughters to do that. We don't want them to have to go through what we went through. So we want them to go to college, concentrate on their studies. When they get out of college, they'll be, what, 23, 24 at the most? And they have their whole life ahead of them to pick someone to marry. So that's my take on it
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:57
Wait until you know what you want in this life before you follow in my footsteps and do what I end up doing. And I think that's why, in general, as a modern culture, we try to steer young people away from marriage. In my parents era, it was no big deal for 21, 22 year olds. It wasn't even a big deal at once upon a time for 1516 and 17 year Coles to get married
Brian Foreman
@BKFOREMAN69 · 2:12
And I think it's that age that I was envisioning when I was raising kids. But my middle child is one and done. She's having one child, and it's for the financial reasons because she saw both her parents work a lot just to provide a simple life, not even middle class life. So? Yeah. I don't know. I don't know boomer wise
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:06
And I said, you know what? Let me tell you something. I still need a man. I said, Now, I might not need you for finances, right? I might not need you for that, but I still need you. I need you to love me. I need you to protect me. I need you to take care of me. I need you to be there for me. I need you to talk to me. I need you to tell me that I'm pretty
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:54
But even now people don't want to get together. I've noticed that she don't have a lot of those no more because some of the couples that were, one of the other couples that were married, they didn't broke up and so it's just crazy. And then like you were saying, and that's something that I talked to the young women about at my church
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:06
And I think we're doing it. I think it's all related. We want to be less tied down for longer, less headache or what have you, or financial maybe playing into it. But even just the decrease in family, I don't know. I always wonder what's going to happen in a few years with population, with it's less people getting married, less people having babies at all, and then less babies per family. We're going to run out of people