I don't have to sit in the house anymore. I can go to a mixer. I can go out and actually meet people face to face. I'm not stuck with talking to people through a screen. So those are some of my thoughts. Two. Some of these singles groups become a hookup culture now again, some of these singles groups are designed to be a hookup culture
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:59
And it was just hard because during a pandemic, the borders were actually closed. But we had a good online long distance relationship. I mean, we actually talked in person and video chatted, but that was pretty good. And we're still friends to this day just because of the distance and us not actually being able to get together in the border just really change things. But not only did I meet him, I met some really good people in that group
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:09
Like I said, I was in this canva group, and I still have canva, but I'm not trying to use it so much, so to make money and so I don't need to learn all the latest tips and tricks. I was in a group for homeschooling. No schools are back open. My son, I'm not homeschooling him. So things like that, I've had to assess
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:37
And now some of us have moved on to the marriage season of life, but we don't want to just leave everybody behind. We want to still kind of be an encouragement to others. But when people get married, you simply aren't interested in singles conversations anymore because you're married. Your focus is different, your priorities are different
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:28
But even that didn't really do it, because it's a different time, know it's a different time. And they seized the opportunity, if you will. But now we're know we're out and about now. And honestly, I would say, too, I think, I mean, real talk, if I've been in a singles group for four or five years and haven't met anyone or haven't really improved my dating skills, then maybe that's not working. Same thing
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:57
But, yeah, a lot of these groups, it's just that they were jumping at one time, really engaging and really fun, and it's just like, okay, well, folks moved on. Like I said, you form relationships outside of the group. I no longer have to talk to you in the group because I talk to you all the time. And I'm not even just talking to you about being single. I'm talking to you about life
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:51
Why couldn't you just say a simple date for me would be going for a walk on the beach and maybe having some sandwiches, like something like that? And a lot of the men were loving my thing because I'm like, why are you all so negative if you can't got none positive to say on the post? Why even post anything? Why even comment if you don't have a positive comment? And again, these are supposed to be christian groups
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:29
And so men, because they want to avoid conflict, they want to avoid drama, a lot of times they'll just bypass these questions. Or if they take too long, the women got a comment about what's taking the men so long to answer. And, oh, I got to hear this, and I'm here for the comments. It's like, go away. It's like women can't help themselves. Go away. This does not even apply to you
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:39
You sound angry and bitter over a typed out post. Like, it's crazy. So I just wanted to chime in for that. And most of the singles groups, I mean, they're not the christian singles groups, are. I left one. I left one. That's how bad it was. And guess what? I left the married group. I joined a group for marriages. And you could join if you were single. Basically, if you had ever been married
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:37
It. I find these dating apps to be entertaining. You take it with a grain of salt. People can be their representative, not themselves. I'm a firm believer that you may find lightning in a bottle. You might. Emma's apps, you know, it's just the luck of the draw. But I think people put too much emphasis on finding someone in those groups. Everybody's looking, even the manipulators, even the deceitful people
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:03
Some people meet their husbands and wives on dating apps. Some people have horrible experiences on dating apps. Some people just meet their spouses just being online, just being on Instagram and stuff like that. So you just never know. Just never know. You just have to be open, I guess, to the possibilities. But thank you so, so much