Whereas a child has time to adjust and adapt to their parents not being together when you're older, and especially if you have a family of your own and you're married, I would think it would be that much more difficult to handle a divorce at a later age in life. They call it gray divorce when people in their sixty s and on up decide to part ways
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:41
And I say divorces there too, but I'm remarried. But anyway, I didn't want to go through all that I watched my mom go through, and I thought I would be different, but in actuality, I wasn't. I was taking some of the things that she took, listening to the excuses, trying to make it work for my kids. And all of that was nothing because we still ended up divorced. Book does seeing your parents miserable change your perspective on marriage or divorce?
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:12
I Tanya. Good evening. So, yes, I agree that it would be difficult for adult children, perhaps even more difficult. I mean, I guess it might be six of one, half a dozen of the other, because it's different when you're a kid and your parents divorced like mine did
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 0:22
Hi, Evelyn. So, if I may ask you, did your parents date other people during that two year separation? And if so, what was that like for you all? I'm going to guess they really didn't get too serious with anyone because they ended up back together. Or maybe they did. So if you want to share that, I would love to hear. Thank you
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:41
And then to see, like you said, the marriage end, it's like, okay, well, do I have any hope for being successful in marriage? In fact, one of the ladies that responded on the thread said, I've never seen a successful marriage in my family. My parents divorced. My grandparents divorced. She said, my great grandparents were deceased before I was born, she said, so I've never seen a successful marriage in my life
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 0:33
Hey, SIS. Thank you so much for your input. And thank you for giving us the perspective of a person who's experienced it to some degree with your parents separating, I'm sure that that was probably, like, mind blowing that at 50 something years married that they decided to separate. But praise God that they came back together. And I'm glad to hear the happy ending to that story, is that they came back together. And so praise God for that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:33
I'm like, I'll call him Mr. Whatever his first name is. Whatever her first name is. I said, but she is not my stepmother. She is my dad's wife, my mom's husband, and that would be that. I'm going to leave it at that. Because I'm 45. I don't need a stepparent, okay? You're my dad's wife, my mom's husband, and we go leave it at that
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 0:33
It's. No, my parents did not date anybody else during that separation. They were too busy worrying about what the other person was doing at that time and too busy worrying about, you know, were they coming back or I don't know. It was a bunch of arguing. And that's the reason why they separated in the first place, because arguing and fighting. But, no, they didn't date anybody else. But if they had, we would have had a fit
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 4:24
You. Hi, Tanya. Thank you for inviting me to this awesome topic and the complex one and hello everyone else. This is a very difficult topic and I cannot find the better way of putting it. Was one of those parents splitting. For 16 years I was with the children, three boys and two girls. It was not a court decision. It was just me told decision. The kids chose to be there and I was mom and dad at the same time